esfjs, all of em i know, are way comfy w/ brief interactions w/ ppl they've just met. Masters of small talk...and putting people at ease. Me, I have less motivation unless I know i will be getting to know the person better. I think for me the goal is getting to know ppl better, and the esfjs i know, their goal is to put ppl at ease... and ppl typically like the latter more I think maybe us enfjs, myself at least, we get nervous bc we sense others discomfort...but run of the mill discomfort is not enough to motivate me to put the average person's comfort as my #1 priority. I'm more likely to try boosting someone's self esteem or something "weird" like that jk.