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    Default INFPs, do you hate?

    INFPs are thought of as one of the least hateful types. So I wonder, what does it take to make an INFP hate or have contempt for someone?

    I read somewhere that an INFP's idealistic nature will lead them to hold very high standards to themselves and others. If these stadards are not met by someone to a great degree, what will the INFP feel about the culprit?

    Discuss or derail, please.
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    I have never hated anyone and don't think I ever could. I could be wrong, though. That said, I know a few INFPs and - while they aren't quick to "hate" - I do know one that has what he calls a deep hatred for a woman who he believes greatly disturbed the peace within his family.

    It is extremely difficult to explain why I personally don't hate or have ever hated anyone, but I'm sure it's due to the large dose of empathy I seem to have been given.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lua View Post
    I have never hated anyone and don't think I ever could. I could be wrong, though. That said, I know a few INFPs and - while they aren't quick to "hate" - I do know one that has what he calls a deep hatred for a woman who he believes greatly disturbed the peace within his family.

    It is extremely difficult to explain why I personally don't hate or have ever hated anyone, but I'm sure it's due to the large dose of empathy I seem to have been given.



    Hate can be beautiful, and very useful. And silly.

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    only in short bursts, hating people is hard work.

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    I don't like the feeling of hate, and it takes a great deal to get me to hate a person. Generally, apathy or avoidance are better options. Hate is too active and too much energy to spend on someone I dislike. I do hate a few people. I refuse to empathize with them, from what they've shown me they are inhuman monsters not worth getting to breathe my air. It's hard to cross that line with me though.

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    I hate evilness, and I think it is necessary to do so if you want to also love what is good. It's not an active feeling directed towards any individual (as mentioned - too much energy), but a general feeling towards what I recognize as sheer wickedness.

    I feel like people can always change for the better, and I always maintain a hope for individuals. However, I may still hate what they do. When I do hate an individual, it doesn't last. It usually settles into a resentment and a general ill feeling at the thought of them, and then that dissipates further to indifference.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Adoamros View Post
    only in short bursts, hating people is hard work.
    If it's not natural, then it's not as good. And if it's natural it shouldn't take or feel like "work".

    People rarely are able to "get to me" also.

    It's always started by my Fe and my Ne!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adoamros View Post
    only in short bursts, hating people is hard work.
    ^ This. When I hate someone, it's shortly before I become completely indifferent.
    Everybody needs love.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Coeur View Post
    ^ This. When I hate someone, it's shortly before I become completely indifferent.
    Then that's just unhealthy.

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    I certainly hate it when people hurt and mistreat others for no good reason. But actively hating someone for long? Nope... like holding grudges, it's just too much work.

    That doesn't mean I forget and offer unearned trust again, though.

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