Are you guys normally vindictive? Or is this a sign of an immature ENFP? OMG It drives me batshit insane.
It's like tit for tat or "oh yeah? i'll show you!". And then they get angry when I call them children! :rolli:
I mean I've experienced it with this ENFP over and over and over again. I've never met someone so vindictive before! A lot of it is over stupidities!
RECENT EXAMPLE:Why was that necessary? I'll never figure it out. This is just ONE out of countless examples of how vindictive he can be. And lets not even discuss not responding to his text message! That's another good one. I heard him say out loud about a text message "he ignored my message, well I can play that game too." He was hinting at me because the nite before i didnt respond to his message HOWEVER, he had ignored plenty of MY text messages in the past. GO FIGURE!
ENFP male friend/coworker...we kind of have a mutual interest in each other. long story, but besides the point.
ENFP and I use to go for swims together often after our workout at the gym, but we never really asked/invited each other. It was kind of like we just expected or hoped that the other person would show up. Basically, the only reason either of us shows up at the pool is because we want to see each other, but of course neither of us will ever admit to this. i guess we both have too much pride to ASK or INVITE the other for a swim and seem like we're too interested.
SO FOR THE FIRST TIME AT THE GYM last week, I dont go to the pool i just walk past him on the treadmill and in a friendly manner wish him a good night, but i dont tell him im not going to the pool cause we never say it. Again we just expect or hope to see each other at the pool.
Because he had hurt me in the past (led me on, lied to me, etc)..this was my way of proving to him that I was OVER HIM (yeah right :ouch and that my life did not revolve around him, even though we're friends. But I didnt think much of it. For all he knows I could have been busy that nite. And in fact I was!
I knew he was going to go to the pool and expect me there. And indeed he did.
So the next day at work he says "you dont go swimming anymore?" and i said "not really" and he says "i went and swam with THOSE people" but he sounded like he didnt enjoy it. I think he was looking forward to me being there and expecting me to show up and was disappointed.
Fast forward to today. We're both at the gym. I walk past him on the treadmill as usual, but this time he ASKS ME if I'm going home. And I say "no, i'm going for a swim". Of COURSE I was expecting him to go. Since I let him know I would be there and things seemed to be going great with our friendship. Somehow I ALREADY KNEW in my gut that he was NOT going to show up JUST to be vindictive. My gut never fails. He doesnt show up. And none of that "benefit of the doubt" crap. I'm 100% sure it was to get back at me.