[ENFJ] ENFJs, why are you so fake?

[Domino]

Poor Eck. It was all downhill after the circus rejected him.

 

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edit: just editing to edit- I try to do it at least three times after posting.

Who likes cheeseburgers?

also,

 

[Little Linguist]

I know ENFJs have a want to please people, which in turn rewards them with appreciation, but is this a genuine system? I ask this because I think the other side involves plans or goals. With this in mind, couldn't they please people simply for the sake of their goal?

I think this also has to do with charisma and trying to uphold it in order to accomplish a goal.

Am I talking about Hitler yet?

If the ends are good, and the means are decent, what the eff is the problem??? How does that correspond to Hitler?

Hitler used decent means of relating to people and inspiring them to achieve ridiculous, dangerous ends culminating in mass murder and the invasion of nearly all of Europe. It all depends on the goal, what side you're on, etc.

So at the end of the day, I don't see how Fe is any more manipulative than Fi...It's just different means to an end. If the end is negative, Fi isn't going to make the end any better or worse, now, is it? Same goes for any of the other two judging functions, Ti or Te.

 

[Domino]

 

[EcK]

Poor Eck. It was all downhill after the circus rejected him.

Isn't that a picture of you before ur daily fullbody shave!?
I CAN NEVER TELL!

 

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If the ends are good, and the means are decent, what the eff is the problem??? How does that correspond to Hitler?

Hitler used decent means of relating to people and inspiring them to achieve ridiculous, dangerous ends culminating in mass murder and the invasion of nearly all of Europe. It all depends on the goal, what side you're on, etc.

So at the end of the day, I don't see how Fe is any more manipulative than Fi...It's just different means to an end. If the end is negative, Fi isn't going to make the end any better or worse, now, is it? Same goes for any of the other two judging functions, Ti or Te.

Thank you for your input.
Hitler reference was a joke.

I was really just wondering. I was-
er0s- 0000000111110000....

(shuts down and goes back to NT forum)

 

[alexx]

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

I know ENFJs have a want to please people, which in turn rewards them with appreciation, but is this a genuine system? I ask this because I think the other side involves plans or goals. With this in mind, couldn't they please people simply for the sake of their goal?

How is that associated with the "Feeling" function solely? Being calculated in pleasing others would be more of a strategic T thing, wouldn't it? Or perhaps not a specific type thing. Regardless I think the premise that "ENFJs are fake" is unsupported.

Fakeness is more the case when one function attempts to disguise itself as another.

 

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I should have put, "ignore the title, it's solely for the purpose of advertisement."

I don't think ENFJs are fake. I'm wondering if an unhealthy one helps or leads others for the sake of their "ego" of sorts. Because two of the three ENFJs I do know, do this some times. I don't know what it is.

(thank you toast for the answer)

Why am I even bothering with this? The thread was designed to provoke responses. Congrats. This is one.

Yeah.

Keep posting pictures.

 

[Lauren Ashley]

I should have put, "ignore the title, it's solely for the purpose of advertisement."

I don't think ENFJs are fake. I'm wondering if an unhealthy one helps or leads others for the sake of their "ego" of sorts.

Yes, they do.

 

[Unkindloving]

ENFJs may stereotypically focus away from themselves for 'the greater good' and all of that jazz, but it's doesn't have to hold true or be completely selfless. I would imagine that either your definition of them is held too close to the typical read-out or you're just running into the wrong sorts of people who just so happen to be ENFJs.
That's my opinion though. I've become a bit picky and abrasive in the way i help others, but i don't expect much in return in the first place. Are you more concerned about the ENFJs because of the guidelines of their personality type? I've found this problem holds true in almost every personality type simply because humans aren't these well-oiled machines beyond the labels we can give them.

Perhaps they appear fake because they are trying too hard to please others and gain their own benefit, as well, without realizing how difficult it is to maintain both at once. As far as i know, the middle-ground is hard for ENFJs to find, but we have the ability to be so outwardly focused to see that in ourselves. It would cause a selfish-seeming issue.
Sig Heil

 

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ENFJs may stereotypically focus away from themselves for 'the greater good' and all of that jazz, but it's doesn't have to hold true or be completely selfless. I would imagine that either your definition of them is held too close to the typical read-out or you're just running into the wrong sorts of people who just so happen to be ENFJs.
That's my opinion though. I've become a bit picky and abrasive in the way i help others, but i don't expect much in return in the first place. Are you more concerned about the ENFJs because of the guidelines of their personality type? I've found this problem holds true in almost every personality type simply because humans aren't these well-oiled machines beyond the labels we can give them.

Perhaps they appear fake because they are trying too hard to please others and gain their own benefit, as well, without realizing how difficult it is to maintain both at once. As far as i know, the middle-ground is hard for ENFJs to find, but we have the ability to be so outwardly focused to see that in ourselves. It would cause a selfish-seeming issue.
Sig Heil

+1. Thank you.

 

[Nocapszy]

but then we remember that the real fakers are the ESFJs and lay off and shut up and close this thread.

 

[HollyGolightly]

No type is fake. There will be people of that type who will be fake, but you can't blame a whole type. There are fake ENFJs, but there are genuine ENFJs. You get good and bad in every type. One person does not represent a whole type.

My mother is ENFJ. I used to be annoyed by her as she came across as insincere sometimes. Other people didn't notice it but because I know her so well I did and it really narked me. But you have to stop and think, why are they doing that? My mother just wantsto be loved. That's all. And she is just trying to please people. She's not doing it because she's manipulative and is trying to get things out of people and hurt them. She just wants to be liked. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I do it sometimes myself.

 

[haag261390]

Good question. Why are many of the ENFJs I come across act fake? They're very popular among people too, that shouldn't come to people as a surprise why ENFJs for the most part act fake but this isn't always the case. There's always an exception.

 

[BlahBlahNounBlah]

No type is fake. There will be people of that type who will be fake, but you can't blame a whole type. There are fake ENFJs, but there are genuine ENFJs. You get good and bad in every type. One person does not represent a whole type.

My mother is ENFJ. I used to be annoyed by her as she came across as insincere sometimes. Other people didn't notice it but because I know her so well I did and it really narked me. But you have to stop and think, why are they doing that? My mother just wantsto be loved. That's all. And she is just trying to please people. She's not doing it because she's manipulative and is trying to get things out of people and hurt them. She just wants to be liked. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I do it sometimes myself.

If you were male and not a sexual predator, I would marry you.

 

[HollyGolightly]

If you were male and not a sexual predator, I would marry you.

Hey I can be male
But I draw the line at not being a sexual predator. You are asking far too much of me there

 

[BlahBlahNounBlah]

Hey I can be male
But I draw the line at not being a sexual predator. You are asking far too much of me there

 

[Nocapszy]

Hey I can be male

its the INFJ!
they're the fakers!

 

[Jaguar]

but then we remember that the real fakers are the ESFJs and lay off and shut up and close this thread.

its the INFJ!
they're the fakers!

What is the purpose of these remarks?