I just thought about the way your Fe works. Question: when you do call out the 'flaws' in people, do you do this becoz at that point there is no common goal at stake and you care enough about them to try and mend this, before the next 'crisis' so to speak?
And do you truly consider them flaws, things to be rectified and improved as they can be a weakness towards the common goal for the group? Is that the point of what I perceive as 'judging' others? Coz that *almost* makes sense to me.
The thing is, if this is what is going on, I find it hard to swallow as I'm very aware of my flaws and working at them. I just experience it as rubbing salt into the wound. But I guess you do that coz you want to make them aware or remind them to fix it?
Also...what do you expect people to do with those comments? Coz...I mean, when you call someone on their weakness, I find that usually no instructions are given as to how to deal with it and rectify it. You'll encourage people to be the best they can but that only supresses the problem imo, and avoids it, instead of untangling the knot. I guess I can see it working on smaller issues. *ponders*
How is one to proceed after getting one of those comments? What do you expect others to do with that comment? Address it on their own at their own discretion? Ask around and ask for help from the community? Suck it up? Or do you actually walk them through the path of self-discovery (which I consider Fi..)
Sorry, dunno if this is the right thread, but these are thoughts that came after I wrote the post that compared Te and Fe.