So do any INFJ's have any problems with people finding your emotional state 'inconsistent'?? It is quickly becoming one of my big fears when it comes to relationships -- that people aren't going to understand the many sides of me. That yes, sure, I very well might be really happy for 2-3 months, but then I might be down and blah for a few weeks, and then I'll feel better again.
I'm really feeling hurt at the moment, but I don't want to go into the details because there are too many. Bottom line is that someone I've known for a long time was really into me this summer, because I was in a really happy place. He felt it was a vast improvement - and at the time I of course liked that, but also in the back of my mind I was thinking....what, so you thought I sucked before?????
I've been pretty emotional for a few days, and have been experiencing some more negative emotions, and I made the mistake of letting him see this - and as expected, he is totally turned off, and wanting me to be just like I was over the summer - and I quote from his email: "....[I] wish you well on road back to Lynn From July. And when you get there, I promise not to fall for the good-natured optimism and self-confidence that I found so irresistible. Another lesson learned."
It's quite upsetting. Any ideas on how I can deal with emotional stuff in relationships going forward? This guy basically thinks I was fake over the summer, because at that time I was happy and had a lot of self-confidence, and the past few weeks I've been more blah and vulnerable. He can't reconcile that the two are BOTH me, and I can understand that....but I'm not being fake in either case..they are both me!! Sigh.