After thinking about it, and actually getting pissed off ;-), I agree that he has demonstrated a total unwillingness to even attempt to understand. He doesn't want to, and was pretty much trying to invalidate all of my feelings, and criticizing my very character, like I have a huge flaw for even *having* feelings and a different emotional state from where I was at in July. When people are critical of me, my initial reaction is to think they're right, and to then start invalidating myself of my own accord.
But I'm over that stage now. :-)
I don't know that he was 'sucking too much energy' from me; but there was definitely an imbalance, and I suppose I was aware that he really liked the 'happy me', and so that's where I felt I had to BE a certain way to be accepted - anything outside of that, and I wouldn't be accepted. So I'm sure there was a lot of 'dark emotion' buildup.
I DO feel I'm a shifting weather pattern ;-), although in my case it usually stays under the surface and it doesn't need to come out, and I deal with it fine on my own. I feel like it all ties together into something coherent. And I have to remind myself again that I have several friends who have never taken issue with who I am, in such a reactive, pushing-away way that this guy did.
So I'm no longer upset with the guy. I'm
This isn't to say I hate him or anything, but I do need to assess and think about future relationships, as I believe I'm on some level seeking the 'wrong' types of people out, and putting up with crap that I rationally don't find caring or acceptable at all, so that's definitely a ball that's in my court. :-)