[NF] What do you want to be like?

[Kyi]

Ugh, there's so much more I wish I could be. Some, possible. Others... just wouldn't be me. Or maybe just a much better version of me.

-Motivation. This is my biggest problem. Its torture to do almost anything that I don't really want to do. I've been slacking off so much, not going to school, not looking for a new job, but... I'm kind of okay with being like this. It's other people that make me feel like I shouldn't.

-Confidence. I think I am a pretty confident person in most cases, but I am insecure of my abilities and the whole world just kind of freaks me out sometime. I'm scared of what I'll encounter and how my dreams will shatter before my eyes when I realize this is totally not what I thought of it to be. I just want to be able to just do it and not worry about it so much.

-Patience and control? I get upset and worked up pretty easily. I tell myself in my mind that I shouldn't and I need to relax and be in control of my emotions. But deep down, I feel the livid energy building inside and I can't help myself. I cry, get immature, lose my temper, nervous, then I feel stupid and apologize a lot.

The perils of being NFP!

 

[runvardh]

Useful in practice rather than just theory...

 

[Parrish]

Useful in practice rather than just theory...

a better concentration would be helpful.

Emotionally not tied by things that don`t matter.
I want to be happy.

 

[Kra]

The main thing I wish I was better at is that first step towards enacting my plans (be the academic, financial, or social). Once I get started, I'm good at following through. It's just taking that first step that I would like to be a little better at.

 

[Phantonym]

I wish I weren't so moody, flippant and impatient at times. I'd like to have more persistent balance and be less insecure so that I could be a better me.

 

[EarthSoul]

I would like to be less concerned about what others think of me, be less self loathing/ depressive, focus on all the great things I have accomplished, be more confident in my abilities, not as uptight in social situations, and less procrastination

 

[alexx]

Procrastinate a LOT less.

 

[dylate]

Procrastination & Over-planning everything, sometimes its just best to jump in. I lack that leap of faith alot.

 

[dylate]

-Confidence. I think I am a pretty confident person in most cases, but I am insecure of my abilities and the whole world just kind of freaks me out sometime. I'm scared of what I'll encounter and how my dreams will shatter before my eyes when I realize this is totally not what I thought of it to be. I just want to be able to just do it and not worry about it so much.

!

Yea, making that leap of faith certainly helps here too.

 

[The Outsider]

 

[Lux]

That's beautiful.

 

[tibby]

I'd like to manage my time left on this Earth better: focus on the things that are important and screw the things that aren't.

Utilize potential better, in every area of my life, be it that self-development, talents, or whatever.

No matter how little I'd have of what I do, I want to utilize that little that I have in the best way I can.

Always do my best, be the best me I could possibly be, that is who I'd like to be. That's all I can do.

 

[flameskull95]

I'd probably like to be more of an xNFJ - my interaction with people is pretty crappy.

 

[Lacey]

I'd like to be at peace with myself. More brave/bold. Not give a damn what other people think. I've always been "the weird kid", but when I was younger I was actually okay with it, maybe even proud of it. Now I'm not. I don't know what happened.

I'd like to be as active in the real world as I am in my head.

 

[Phantonym]

That's beautiful.

+2

Definitely worth a and a

 

[Mad Hatter]

Useful in practice rather than just theory...

What has practice ever done for us?

 

[Phantonym]

What has practice ever done for us?

Um...make us perfect?

 

[Mad Hatter]

Um...make us perfect?

Nah, I was born that way

 

[Phantonym]

Nah, I was born that way

Never hurts to double the perfection.

 

[Airwalker]

Ack! There's too much. I want to have a better memory, quicker wit, more visual and spatial intelligence, greater command of objectivity/logic, more wisdom, more breadth and depth of knowledge, greater ambition, a way with words. I want to be much more intelligent, charismatic, generous, cultured, creative, quick on my feet, talented, musical, and sophisticated. I also want to be a badass with less oversensitivity, more moxie and at least one awesome catchphrase.

Oh, and to be more patient, confident in myself and happy with what I already have. Whoops...

Those are all the things that i am working on and I have achieved a lot of them with one side effect. I takes ALOT of energy. ALOT of energy. People at work or people who i have just met. Don't believe i'm an INFP. They all think i'm this extrovert that has his life "together". But when i'm tired ..oh boy..INFP guy pops up immediately.

But all the traits you mentioned you can learn or cultivate. And a few are already part of you, but you need to get into challenging situation where this trait will pop up. A few traits you mentioned are traits not "natural" to us INFP's. These are in my opinion the hardest to cultivate since it kinda goes against your nature, and can make you feel like your not being yourself.

What I want is to have more control over me being oversensitive. People don't see it put , it's a ongoing war in my head and to be able to keep in touch with friends better.