So this is my first original post on this site, but I have been reading for about a month now and I've found you all to give some of the best advice to my fellow, often lost ENFPs. I am hoping you all can offer me some insight.
I am definitely a strong Enneagram 2 so I found myself pursuing charity jobs after graduation. I was particularly inclined to international charity work because of my time studying int'l relations abroad and seeing how easy we have it in the US compared to others. It's actually sickening. I don't see how I could live not offering some kind of help. I also wanted a job where I could get adventure ( I am also a strong Ennegram 7) and travel. I NEED travel in my life.
So I am now working for an amazing international charity. You change children's lives forever, which makes you feel like you are living for more than a paycheck. Also, in the last 2 years my job has taken me to three different countries and a handful of big cities in the US I had not yet had the opportunity to visit. Another plus is that everyone I work with is conflict free- such a blessing for an ENFP. There are some small downfalls though, like me having to bartend still on Sat nights to keep up my lifestyle. Charity works doesn't pay very good. Definitely couldn't support a family on this paycheck!
But here is the big problem for which I'm seeking your help. This job is in my hometown and I am dying to experience living somewhere else on my own, away from everyone's preconceived notions of me and away from my family (they are great I just want to see if I can be totally independent). I'd like to go live in a big city, like Austin, Dallas, DC, San Fransisco, etc. Or I'd like to go live in another country and finally become fluent in a second language. However, I'd be leaving a totally amazing job. I may never be able to find one even as close to as good as this one IN THIS AREA if I chose to come back here to be close to my family.
Why can't I just accept that I have a great life here? Why am I always seeking change and something better? I feel like I will always have an excuse to move even when what I have here is exactly what I want. If I was off abroad, I'd probably wish I could be back in the US just traveling occassionally as I do now. If I was in a big city going to grad school (if i could finally pick a subject), I may be discouraged or lonely. I'm afraid I am going to turn into one of my older ENFP friends I met when I was bartending who moves to a different city every 2 years. She's now 35 and hates that she has no one stable in her life and no family.
Should I just go for it now and move while I'm semi-young or should I not set myself up for constant unwavering pattern of looking for greener grass?