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    Quote Originally Posted by whatusername View Post
    I have one INFJ friend and we hit it off very well. Whenever someone joins in our conversation, s/he eventually gives up, claiming said INFJ and I have "our own language." We share the love for random, "sad-looking" things, like ruins, or restaurants with 3 tables, a certain aria.

    A romantic relationship with an INFJ? I'm open to it, but for the life of me I can't guess what it would be like.
    When it's good it's really good. When it's bad it's really bad. I dated another infj when I was A LOT younger (earlier teens) and it was like this odd heavenish thing. I love him to death. It ended all chaotic and messy, but it started with a Bang. It was awesome. Totally awesome. If I ever found something like that again I'd leap at the chance to have it.
    I love other infjs, as friends, lovers or whatever. I just don't like assholes
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    Quote Originally Posted by flameskull95 View Post
    The funny thing with me is that I'm an INFJ who grew up with unusual people, - INFj's like unusual things, so, in my case, an unusual thing would be someone normal.

    But 'Jerry Seinfeld' is an INFJ, and I knew someone that acted like him- and we were good friends, and I've heard people say that INFJ's like INFJ's, so from my experience, that's probably the only type that people have said an INFJ is attracted, who I'm attracted to.

    Anyone understand???
    I have read this four times and cannot follow. Must not be a morning person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Requeim View Post
    Seinfeld is in no way INFJ

    I don't know about that, I actually think he is. His character on the show might not always portray an INFJ persona, but I'm sure irl he is more likely slightly different. I do see INFJ qualities about him in his show though. In his show is strikes me as fairly shallow, so I'm sure that depth is there irl, or at least I would hope so!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Quiet View Post
    I don't know about that, I actually think he is. His character on the show might not always portray an INFJ persona, but I'm sure irl he is more likely slightly different. I do see INFJ qualities about him in his show though. In his show is strikes me as fairly shallow, so I'm sure that depth is there irl, or at least I would hope so!
    If you'll pardon my close reading of the show Seinfeld, of which I was a big fan, yes the show was shallow, but there was depth in its shallowness, if you get my meaning. It was a "show about nothing," the daily minutiae of everyday interaction between four very self-centered, shallow and (in George's case) highly anxious people. And what could be deeper than examining the seemingly pointless everyday interactions, relationships, complaints, petty arguments and ridiculous situations of four people trying to live their lives?

    There was even a running joke on Seinfeld when Jerry and George decided to write their own television sit-com and were marketing it to NBC executives. George and Jerry couldn't come up with any brilliant ideas as a "hook" for their sit-com, so they marketed it to NBC execs as a "show about nothing." Seinfeld was often criticized in its 9 year run for the seeming shallowness and self-centeredness of the characters. So what more fitting ending than to have Jerry, George, Elaine and Kramer all end up trapped together in a single jail cell somewhere in the midwest, for committing some ridiculous crime they didn't even know they'd committed, stuck with each other for eternity. Jerry knew the characters were shallow and self-centered, but that was the basis of his comedy: examining and finding the sometimes painful comedy in these little lives that we all strive to lead, with our bickering, petty arguments, self-centeredness, etc. They deserved each other and Jerry knew it.

    ...Apologies. Hehe. Seinfeld rant over.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lemonade View Post
    Lol, I think I understand what you are saying. Most of my interests are a bit odd, and because of them, I've met and enjoyed the company of very odd people. For some reason, I tend to have a strange attraction to the innocent and normal "girl next-door" when looking back on love relationships.

    or would this apply more to my ISFP sister who only goes to shows featuring experimental indie bands, but will pop in a Britney Spear CD every once in awhile?
    Interesting, I have a lot of types... for sexual gratification I love the evil INTJ tattoo artist bisexual type. She bites me, rips my flesh and uses me for her pleasure, I am a pawn in her game of chess, and I love every minute of it. I love being a sub anyway.

    For a relationship though

    I totally want the girl next door. I want her to be kind, friendly, affectionate and intelligent. I want her to be fe based and want to help those around her. I want her to love life the way I do...

    Its wierd, I had that epiphany tonight. I met this girl, turns out she is into MBTI because she studied it for her Psych major when she went into patient care for the mentally disabled. Shes an ISFJ, shes cute, tall, intelligent, and everything the girl next door is. The 1st time i talked to her for about 3 hours eating a cold pizza, she actually managed to touch me and make me smile and intrigue me with her massive empathy.

    I think we like the girl next door type because secretly inside all INFJs esp INFJ males want that stabilizing relationship, want that family stone to feel a place of safety and shelter in. The most logical choice for that is the girl next door.
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    I feel great around fellow INFJs. Though sometimes, for a relationship, I feel that two INFJs is just too quirky, both with our own set of standards and unique view on the world and people and of course thinking intuitively we're both right.

    So perhaps a caring ISFJ would be a better option, though preferably one who can admire strong N insights. Then again in return, of course you'd have to let yourself live in the moment more.

    Well I dunno. T females strain me very much usually, I have the feeling I need to be on my toes at all times, or I'd get trampled under them.

    Quote Originally Posted by Billy View Post
    I love being a sub anyway.
    Hm, interesting. I think I'd feel comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. I had a dominant mother. So while I'd find the situation 'secure', I know by experience that it's a very unnatural situation (dominant female, submissive male) which will implode sooner or later. Which makes me uncomfortable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tikka View Post
    I feel great around fellow INFJs. Though sometimes, for a relationship, I feel that two INFJs is just too quirky, both with our own set of standards and unique view on the world and people and of course thinking intuitively we're both right.

    So perhaps a caring ISFJ would be a better option, though preferably one who can admire strong N insights. Then again in return, of course you'd have to let yourself live in the moment more.

    Well I dunno. T females strain me very much usually, I have the feeling I need to be on my toes at all times, or I'd get trampled under them.



    Hm, interesting. I think I'd feel comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. I had a dominant mother. So while I'd find the situation 'secure', I know by experience that it's a very unnatural situation (dominant female, submissive male) which will implode sooner or later. Which makes me uncomfortable.

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    im only a sub sexually lol and only if its with the right girl.
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    I definitely want the "girl next door" - she should be less quirky, less emotional than me, but still have some of that so that we can connect. I like stronger personalities to offset when I'm feeling like disappearing. I want her to complement me. The idea of dating someone just like me gives me the creeps. In fact, I have a date tonight with a girl who I met once before. We spent six hours together on our first date, but then I started to think about how I feel, and she's just two levels too deep. In other words, we connected too much, had too much intimacy from the very beginning. That is too overwhelming to me, and I'd prefer to know I had that in a friend, rather than a lover, gf, partner, etc. I want my partner to be less of me...but still more than me. Hard to find, that's fo'shure

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    Jerry Seinfeld is an INTJ

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tikka View Post
    I can't stand ENFJs. They seem so fake and phoney to me. It's like they're very manipulative in letting people feel good about themselves. While manipulation isn't necessarily a bad thing, I'm more taken aback by the person excecuting the manipulation.

    I mean, at least for myself, I *know* when I'm evil or doing good while I'm manipulating peoples' feelings.

    INFJs are better for me. At least I can't see the manipulation going on.
    Knowing some ENFJ's, I can say that they may appear to be manipulative, but at their core they really really want to help people. I think the reason they may be perceived as manipulative is just because they have such good people skills that people find themselves putty in the ENFJ's hands.

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