Or maybe a Te perspective? Eh, I lost myself. I’ll never, ever be an INFJ, but I thought I’d describe how Fe can feel as it comes and goes from my home base Fi/Te perspective. It's my latest project. I will ALWAYS be an enfp, but Fe is a fun game.
Perhaps most Fi users can tap into Fe a little bit naturally? I most certainly never have.
Things I notice-
Fe feels like buttered, fresh baked rolls out of the oven. It is all warm and cuddly, but intensifies if I interact with other Fe users. Together we amplify the Fe feelings of togetherness. I want to know more about their mother-in-law, their soccer game this weekend, their new house. I just like watching them talk..It makes me happy.
Fe is dainty, refined, neat, picky. Fe likes nice things. Fe cringes at that “substance” on the passenger floorboard of the car. Fe seeks to shop at Macy’s. Perhaps there is some Si contamination but Fe sees all the imperfections in cheap items and enjoys quality. The marker colored-on futon? Noooooooooo……. Fe has fairly high standards for cleanliness. I often have had people ask how I could accomplish so much as a single mom. It was because I wasn’t scrubbing that stuff off the baseboards like Fe tells me to.
Fe modulates movements. It refines gestures, words, comments. It adds delicate precision.
At its strongest Fe is very sparing of words-like a mental stutter. Every phrase gets translated into something pleasant. It can take forever to write an email. I keep changing the words. They need to be precise and correct and pleasent. If the sentences do not flow, I cant write them. I have written twenty posts about this and put each on a private blog because I cant post them here.
Fe says “Shhhhhh….”. It explains that my view is unimportant. The others view has precedence. Why use so many words? They do not need to know the inner thoughts.
Fe sees Fi and senses noise and cacophony. Why is Fi so loud? To signal distress Fe actually drops the volume of conversation, looks to the lower right and indirectly implies discomfort.
Fe can feel a bit exclusive.
Fe uses verbal retrieval eye techniques-mostly to my right. This would be imagined conversation from NLP if I recall correctly.
Fe gets very calm in chaos. Fe says to check my boxes. The building has turned into a melting pit of doom around me, and the world is ending. But I checked my boxes with a smile! SiFe me thinks.
Fe does not want to stand up or out. That is not its place.
Rituals are intriguing. Fe wants things a certain way and enjoys the sameness, the consistent nature of the ceremony. It makes me feel connected.
Fe speaks a different language-a language of pauses, silences, gaps that are finely coordinated between the speakers. Those gaps allow for the unspoken to be said. Fe is not direct.
What is not said matters more than what is said. WARNING: Fi/Te users don’t do this. We cannot see it. We are blind to it. We realize something is missing at an early age. After being hurt a few times we begin to assume the worst-and thus become a bit paranoid-for an ENFP or demanding of all information-for an ISTJ. Others may do this as well.
Also Fe will read into what Fi users say. Fe assume the message will be translated into something less direct, softer, and the unspoken harsher critique will be understood. Te just says things. However for an Fe user, you may read much worse into what the Te person said assuming those unspoken layers are present.
This could very well be the odd Fe I am tapping into. It comes and goes with some days not here at all.
I continue to play as Fe gives me a choice outside of Te. Rather than become frustrated, I can become calm, burrowed in a little hole, watching.
Also-I have an odd genetic condition resulting in chronic tendonitis. Fe eliminates this chronic pain, making me think it causes increases in natural endorphins and cortisol.
Hysterically, Fe quibbles with Te. Fi just watches. It’s like sitting in the backseat of the car watching mom and dad argue.
Fe: Those dogs are really not clean.
Te: Get rid of them then.
Fi: I love the dogs.
Te: Shave the dogs to remove extra hair
Fe: That would look quite bad. We cant do that. Maybe leave them outside?
Te: Meh, it’s just dog hair.
Fi: It’s cold outside
Te: Especially with a butt naked shaved dog. Hahahahaha….
I get to see Ni a bit now and then. Stuff just is other stuff. tree=broccoli=tree=broccoli=tree=broccoli. With each step it gets enriched in detail. Te gets annoyed at some point at the pointlessness of this Ni perception....WTF?