Undoing the damage involved analyzing the person who hurt me from every possible angle... trying to understand why they acted the way they did, how much was their fault vs. mine, the ways in which their personality type played a role, what their feelings were towards me, how did I feel about them, and what aspects of that person do I feel compassion for, in retrospect. A truly traumatizing situation requires a lot of in-depth exploration. In my case, it has to be analyzed by thinking (Ti) first, then Fe towards the other person (involves compassion and ultimately forgiveness), and Fi (what were my feelings about the situation i.e. how did it make me feel).
I don't find it hard to verbalize traumatic experiences. Talking about it is therapeutic.