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    I've seriously never met a nice ENFJ! I do beleive that they exist out there, but the only ones I've met were rather horrid people (and not just in my opinion). Can someone please tell me what nice ENFJs are like?

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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    I've seriously never met a nice ENFJ! I do beleive that they exist out there, but the only ones I've met were rather horrid people (and not just in my opinion). Can someone please tell me what nice ENFJs are like?

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    I dated a nice ENFJ for a while; sure, he had his moments, but don't we all?
    :-)

    He was extremely warm, a wonderful listener, very caring and really wanting to help people out and help people 'be all that they can be' -- he's one of the few people who was really able to get me to open up; he was very safe to open up to, and he oozed with empathy.

    And from a dating perspective -- a guy who actually *listens* to you deeply, and *asks good questions* -- is very rare!!!!! So he was attractive for both of these reasons. Most people don't take the time to really try to get to know me - or they don't know how to. He did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    I've seriously never met a nice ENFJ! I do beleive that they exist out there, but the only ones I've met were rather horrid people (and not just in my opinion). Can someone please tell me what nice ENFJs are like?


    What about L4BNU?
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    The loveliest ENFJ I knew in real life was a wonderful mom and did homeschooling. She dressed like a gypsy and was always in a positive mood. (I think she flipped from laughing to occasional anger, when justified, but she was never a downer.) She liked to laugh a great deal. But she was very low-key in her extroversion.

    She was never fake. That is one thing I loved about her. She saw right through the smokescreens and lies most people put up, and her faith/spirituality was never false or pollyana-ish. She was very real and authentic and honest about how crummy it all can be sometimes. No pretenses.

    She was a true actualizer of people, able to see the potential in someone and coax it out and make it blossom. She saw the potential in me, I know that much, and took me under her wing for the time we knew each other. I will never forget her.

    (Ironically, she was also the one who first really introduced me to MBTI.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    She was very real and authentic and honest about how crummy it all can be sometimes. No pretenses.
    This sounds exactly like the ENFJ I dated. In fact, he used some of those very words!! He was all about 'being real' and having 'real connections' with people. And he, too, fully acknowledged that sometimes things just suck, and that's life, and there's no avoiding it - but he was there for you during those times. He really wanted to help people out.

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    I have a great aunt who has been a great help while I was a kid when it came to excessive family crap. One time my mother pulled a really stupid stunt while I was out and called me from the women's shelter to meet her there. I nearly had a panic attack, thankfully I was at a councellor session, but ended up conflicted as to whether to go to her or go back home where my step dad was. In the end I went to my great aunt's for the night and stayed with her for three days before going back home. It was another week after that before my mother came home bringing my siblings back. My little brother has since told me horror stories about that bit of family entertainment.

    These days my great aunt still treats me like I'm that little lost kid, but it's nice that she still cares that much. Kind of makes the e-mail spam less of an annoyance, ^_^.
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    My local parish priest is ENFJ. He's one of the only people in my life who know the full story of who I am and where I come from, and he understands and listens and accepts me. He's loyal and always supportive of me, and a real force to have on my side that I'd often be lost without.

    To begin with, there were some teething problems when we dealt with each other, but when we got to know each other and I realised he was just trying to care and he came to understand my background and realise where a lot of the mistakes I make come from... well, we compliment each other quite well.

    Sometimes if I make a mistake in phrasing something a bit too bluntly, he comes to the rescue because he understands that I didn't mean any harm, and sorta 'translates' what I said and fixes things. I really look up to him and respect him, and I've been trying to use him as a role model to teach myself better 'manners'.
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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    I've seriously never met a nice ENFJ! I do beleive that they exist out there, but the only ones I've met were rather horrid people (and not just in my opinion). Can someone please tell me what nice ENFJs are like?
    I'm curious. What's so bad about the ENFJ's you have met? I have very limited experience interacting with known MBTI types in IRL so this would be illuminating.

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    Nevermind, I just saw the ENFJ 'rant' page. Must check out...

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