That's a great explanation Udog.
I'm not bragging when I say this but there have been several times where if me and a group of friends decides to go out and if I bail for some reason, nobody goes anywhere.
When I've asked a couple of people about this they've said that I tend to keep the conversations going and keep the atmosphere fun and convivial. I assure you, it's nothing I do manipulatively it's just me being me. But I'm beginning to see to people who don't have a natural ability to exert themselves on an atmosphere they may view this suspiciously. And it does tend to be little things like picking up a vein of conversation, laughter, being inclusive, willingness to put yourself out there, unafraid to appear a little foolish, that allows people to relax and put their feet up.
Plus, it comes across as arrogant to openly admit you know you can do this. And this same ability can be used maliciously so that adds even more distrust.