Concerning the OP:
My relationship with my parents is really fine. Of course there was that adolescent stuff, but I'm through with that. Maybe I also get along so well because I don't see them more often than every other or every third weekend, but then it's usually quite nice. In any case it's nothing like manipulative, controlling or absent. Just a healthy and trustful relationship.
Then again, I don't know whether I know any other male INFPs, but I also doubt a certain type is more prone to have a certain mother (to put it that way).