User Tag List

First 51314151617 Last

Results 141 to 150 of 175

  1. #141
    Tempbanned
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Enneagram
    8w9
    Posts
    14,031

    Default

    I would like to think that I attract a little bit of every kind

  2. #142
    *hmmms* theadoor's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    MBTI
    esfp
    Enneagram
    8w9
    Socionics
    ILE
    Posts
    586

    Default

    Mostly, IMHO narrow minded or intellectually weak persons or people who are basically OK persons, but I see them more as friends not potential dates. Sucks to be me, lol

  3. #143
    Mud and rain and chaos... TickTock's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w3
    Posts
    951

    Default

    All the colours of the bow. Actually there are still some types I haven't managed to tick yet. It's actually not always a good thing to love variety.

  4. #144
    psicobolche tcda's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    MBTI
    intp
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    1,292

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by theaferist View Post
    Mostly, IMHO narrow minded or intellectually weak persons or people who are basically OK persons, but I see them more as friends not potential dates. Sucks to be me, lol
    sucks more to be them by the sounds of it.
    "Of course we spent our money in the good times. That's what you're supposed to do in good times! You can't save money in the good times. Then they wouldn't be good times, they'd be 'preparation for the bad times' times."

    "Every country in the world owes money. Everyone. So heere's what I dont get: who do they all owe it to, and why don't we just kill the bastard and relax?"

    -Tommy Tiernan, Irish comedian.

  5. #145
    Banned
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    16

    Default

    Weaklings who are looking for a strong figure to use as a crutch.

  6. #146
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    MBTI
    INFP
    Posts
    256

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    I am actually quite good at hearing what isn't being said, but I like to have tangible proof of that. S vs N in this context may in part be a difference of motivations and methods of gaining attention. Ns send out very subtle signals, and want another N to pick up on these. My thoughts when I pick up on these signals is "well if they really liked me they would do something about it" (this is assuming that I am not too crazy about them).

    And on the contrary, it makes me very uncomfortable when things like this are vague, while it makes you uncomfortable to be blunt.

    When I'm interested in an N and they're interested in me, it works out though. I pick up on the nuances, and then I take action to take things further. But if it's one sided it's a bit weird.

    Yeah when people are being too ambiguous I just drop the entire thing and get frustrated (it's usually noticeable). An example of that was an ENFP chick liked me a lot, and she was being very hot and cold. She would just continue to be ambiguous when I was asking questions to understand her positions, and I just gave up entirely. She didn't understand it, was asking me what was wrong, etc. Ugh. She obviously liked me, but didn't seem to want to date or anything like that. Confused the hell out of me to say the least. I think that ENFPs use their Ne to be ambiguous, and with their understanding of Fi know how to use this to affect people even more with their ambiguities. I like ENTPs though, their Ne Fe combo makes the implications a lot more obvious, and even fun to figure out.
    I have a better understanding of where you're coming from. I understand why you would get frustrated by the hot and cold. That frustrates me too (to no end). That's different than what I was thinking of, which is someone who, though subtle means, lets you know they're interested but then follows through with an indication they're willing to take it further. I don't dislike bluntness--as a matter of fact at some point I need it.

    When you say that "if they really liked me they'd do something about it," fear of rejection (sensitivity) might keep an NF from being too direct. Though it sounds like the issue here is that you're being pretty direct about your interest and they're not giving you any clear signals at all, just blowing hot and cold. An NF (or this one anyway) will step out of her Fi and Ni and risk letting a man know they're interested by complimenting them, asking them out, but stopping short of actually saying..."I'm interested, are you?" At least I can't do that when my heart is too vested in the person. I would need him to take a chance...or just make it clear, and ask me out to dinner or over to his place.

    "When I'm interested in an N and they're interested in me, it works out though. I pick up on the nuances, and then I take action to take things further. But if it's one sided it's a bit weird."

    This helps me in understanding the male perspective, especially in my current situation. My friend has definitely picked up on my nuances, and I'm waiting now for him to take it further. I've been conflicted thinking that I need to be more blunt--to let him know I've been attracted to him for some time. But that's just too risky for me (we work fairly closely together). Doesn't a man usually take this step? We are both INXP; I feel he knows what's going on between us as he initiated things with me. There's been romantic light touching, obvious flirtation, laughter, great communication, and a genuine understanding and care for one another. All of that (or most of it) has been in a work context. We have gone out together for lunch and I've asked him), and the interest never flags.

  7. #147
    Magical BlackCat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    ESFP
    Enneagram
    9w8 sx/sp
    Socionics
    SEE Fi
    Posts
    7,002

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren View Post
    That's different than what I was thinking of, which is someone who, though subtle means, lets you know they're interested but then follows through with an indication they're willing to take it further. I don't dislike bluntness--as a matter of fact at some point I need it.
    Ah that works as well. If you're implying something, and I respond in kind and you follow through; then things should be fine.

    When you say that "if they really liked me they'd do something about it," fear of rejection (sensitivity) might keep an NF from being too direct. Though it sounds like the issue here is that you're being pretty direct about your interest and they're not giving you any clear signals at all, just blowing hot and cold. An NF (or this one anyway) will step out of her Fi and Ni and risk letting a man know they're interested by complimenting them, asking them out, but stopping short of actually saying..."I'm interested, are you?" At least I can't do that when my heart is too vested in the person. I would need him to take a chance...or just make it clear, and ask me out to dinner or over to his place.
    Bolded is exactly the issue. There is signaling, then I follow up that signaling, but it's one sided there. They don't reciprocate. Asking someone out is a blatant display of interest, and as long as you stay true to that interest and don't respond in an ambiguous way, it will all be smooth.

    A certain level of vagueness is okay... but then there is that line where it seems like a pointless effort to constantly try to understand motivations. It's that tertiary Ni of IS_Ps, if it gets overworked we get very frustrated. We try to see where the person is coming from, and need Se information to confirm it.

    I'm waiting now for him to take it further. I've been conflicted thinking that I need to be more blunt--to let him know I've been attracted to him for some time. But that's just too risky for me (we work fairly closely together). Doesn't a man usually take this step? We are both INXP; I feel he knows what's going on between us as he initiated things with me. There's been romantic light touching, obvious flirtation, laughter, great communication, and a genuine understanding and care for one another. All of that (or most of it) has been in a work context. We have gone out together for lunch and I've asked him), and the interest never flags.
    Well of course he's not going to take the next step. How long have you been doing this with him? He's an INTP, they are pretty bad with emotions, especially romantic ones. It's a relief to them to have someone else do all of the initiating. He probably feels deeply for you but doesn't know what to do. Expecting that of him is futile... INTP males often get annoyed in romance because of the expectations put upon them like these.

    It's not that he's not interested in you, it's that he doesn't know how to express it.

    He will think very highly of you if you do the initiating.

    When INTPs do come around to initiating, it's usually awkward and makes them uncomfortable. It usually takes them a while.

    Honestly nothing bad will happen if you just ask him out, say that you would like to take the relationship further because you really like him. He'll probably be flattered.

    Hopefully that helped, and good luck!
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

    sCueI (primary Inquisition)

  8. #148
    Head Pigeon Mad Hatter's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    -1w sp/sx
    Socionics
    IOU Ni
    Posts
    1,028

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren View Post
    Doesn't a man usually take this step?
    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    When INTPs do come around to initiating, it's usually awkward and makes them uncomfortable. It usually takes them a while.
    That's 100% me (currently undergoing the F/T-questioning process .

    Why wanna be usual anyway? There's an opportunity to do something special
    If you like him, just ask away.
    Occasions where I thought that I simply had to do it where rare, and the latest one ended horribly (and "It takes them a while" is putting it mildly in my case). I'd say do the guy a favor.
    BTW, great post BC. Yet another piece of the puzzle
    IN SERIO FATVITAS.

    -τὸ γὰρ γράμμα ἀποκτέννει, τὸ δὲ πνεῦμα ζῳοποιεῖ-

  9. #149
    Senior Member mcmartinez84's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    MBTI
    ISTP
    Posts
    719

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ayoitsStepho View Post
    I personally like energetic people, happy people who aren't trying to play some mind game on me. I'm not into that. Just be blunt in your feelings and smooth in your approach and its a go
    Thank goodness! Playing those games is not my cup of tea at all!

    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    I like ENTPs though, their Ne Fe combo makes the implications a lot more obvious, and even fun to figure out.
    I'm friends with an ENTP at work, we get lunch all of the time. He drives me crazy when it comes to how he thinks about anything. He comes up with some stuff that just leaves me scratching my head. Takes an N to understand an N, imo!
    I 65.63% E 34.38%
    S 68.75% N 31.25%
    T 87.1% F 12.9%
    P 66.67% J 33.33%

  10. #150
    The Black Knight Domino's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    MBTI
    eNFJ
    Enneagram
    4w3 sx/so
    Socionics
    eNFJ Ni
    Posts
    11,443

    Default

    No. ENTPs are just lunatic ranters.
    eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
    Neutral Good
    EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
    RLUEI, Choleric/Melancholic
    Inquistive/Limbic
    AIS Holland code
    Researcher: VDI-P
    Dramatic>Sensitive>Serious

Similar Threads

  1. [NF] What kind of fantasies do you female NF's have?
    By Yomama99 in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 86
    Last Post: 10-18-2008, 01:48 AM
  2. What kind of hobbies do you have?
    By Sahara in forum The Bonfire
    Replies: 50
    Last Post: 08-01-2007, 10:19 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO