oooooh so and so is right because e=mc^2 and f=ma
and i have contingency plans blah blah blah
But I have jedi mind tricks.
INTJ = 0 ENFJ = 1
lol! True dat.
Originally Posted by briochick
what was too bad about him?
I could have made him a happy man.
Originally Posted by Elaur
Wow, so true. I like ENFJs. But just like every other personality there are things that can be irritating. And like other E's it can be more pronounced than some of the introverted irritations.
I watching a docu about Joe Strummer last night. He's textbook INFJ, very intense guy. I related to his intensity and the snap to his tone, but I could see in his face and his eyes the boiling Fe contained beneath Ni. There's a difference between I and E energy. Being Fe-primary before Ni is a different animal.
For me I think it lies in the "I just want to help" mode ENFJs get in without realizing that it's still about themselves, just like everyone is about themselves.
I do this sometimes. I go into "fix it" mode w/o being aware of it. If it's about someone I love, it's not just about saving them from the flames, it's saving myself. So there's this shadow of selfish motivation to the altruistic things I do at times. Another puzzling aspect of my nature that I'm not sure about - whether to be ashamed of it or not.
Every personality has their own hang ups, ENFJs (and enfp) just usually wear their heart on their sleeve enough to get hurt over having hangups that other people dislike.
It's a shame issue for me. Being displeasing to people ultimately hurts me.
eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
AIS Holland code
So I'm on a business trip in DC (where my mother lives). I haven't called her yet because I wanted to finish up a bit more work before hanging out with her.
She apparently called my roomate, found out where I was and came into my hotel room at 7:00 in the morning to complain about how I hadn't called her yet and she told me off because I was sleeping too much and all normal people are up at this time.
I am a freelance artist. I do this so I can sleep during the day. I told her so and she insisted that I don't love her and then proceeded to plan the rest of my trip. I came here to WORK dammit. Not to participate in the Fe "pay attention to me" parade.
By the way I think enfj's are GREAT role-models and great teachers/parents to teach about/pass on ethics and push the kid to the very best they can be (positive/negative). As in give their children the best tools possible (offer all kinds of possibilities to all kinds of activies, hobbies, clubs etc) and treat them as individuals.
ENFJ as a parent can be quite perfectionistic. I think it's not intentional in a negative way, I understand why they are that way, they just want their kids to have the very best (not in spoiling sense) and grow up to be the best they possibly can, with the world open for them.