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    They are a little.. lot pushy. Very much so. But their pushiness only rarely causes conflict, and I allow them to be pushy, so it's not their fault.
    do u mind if I ask you something?

    I am an enfj, and my husband seems to be an infp.

    He thinks I can be too pushy, while I think that he's just not being responsible enough sometimes (by not being helpful enough, in the house, etc., I will not go into details...) *laugh*

    But anyway, do u think enfj and infp would most definately always clash on this specific point??

    Cheers, dee

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    Also, after reading some of this really looooonnnnngggg thread...
    It's amazing how many people hate us, WOW *shock*

    Anyway, I must also disagree about the needy thing, I am totally not like that, although I think theoretically speaking I would like someone to lean on once in a while.
    For me though it's in the realm of a peculiar dream than real life...

    I take all the responsibility all the time for myself and others, and I don't expect anyone to "comfort me" while doing so!!

    That's the part I hate, that I can never be needy because everyone else needs stuff.
    That's where my hidden resentment comes from...

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    Well, I don't know to be honest. The ENFJ I know is only pushy when she's stressed out... or when she's really excited about something. Most of the time she's really nice and gentle, though very good at persuading people to do things. That can come off as pushiness sometimes.

    As an INFP myself, I don't see ENFJ pushiness as being necessarily bad. It's usually a good thing. Keeps us from slackin' off too much. But at the same time, I'd recommend laying off if he's been trying to do something, or if he's stressed out. I know I personally keep most of my stress inside, and when I do that, I feel like even the simplest of tasks asked to be done by others are them being "pushy"... and I can start to lash out in retaliation because of it. Never pretty.
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    My only ENFJ friend can be really pushy, but then I just push back, which turns into a verbal shoving match that results in hilarity and many abstract shouted references to Christopher Lambert and indie films with woodland people dressed like Hello Kitty armed with light sabers.

    Thank goodness he has his INFP wife to anchor his silly behind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dee View Post
    although I think theoretically speaking I would like someone to lean on once in a while.
    For me though it's in the realm of a peculiar dream than real life...
    Isn't this the truth??????!!!:steam:

    When you spend your entire life being the 'go to person' for everyone.....for once, you would like someone special in your life that is there for YOU

    Reminds me of that Snow Patrol song ".....If I lay here
    If I just lay here.....Would you lie with me and just forget the world?"

    That pretty much sums up my idea of an ideal romantic partner.....
    I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. --- Maya Angelou

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    Quote Originally Posted by Desperado44 View Post
    Isn't this the truth??????!!!:steam:

    When you spend your entire life being the 'go to person' for everyone.....for once, you would like someone special in your life that is there for YOU

    Reminds me of that Snow Patrol song ".....If I lay here
    If I just lay here.....Would you lie with me and just forget the world?"

    That pretty much sums up my idea of an ideal romantic partner.....
    You're soooooo F. I need to go shower.
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    Ever consider an INFP, Desp? They'd make a great match for your romantic nature.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    Ever consider an INFP, Desp? They'd make a great match for your romantic nature.
    No....I don't think I've ever met one.....tell me more...I would love to meet someone like that ...
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    Ah! You've come to the right place, mon frere! We have many lovely INFP laydeeZ with which to minglerate!

    First of all, I suggested an INFP because of your posts. You're a very sensitive, thoughtful guy who's looking for a love that won't beat him up, but will also provide challenges and room to grow. INFPs are challenging, nurturing and kind while being very mysterious without coming off twee or precious. They're tough as nails too. An ENFJ guy with an INFP girl seems to be an epic love waiting to happen.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    Ah! You've come to the right place, mon frere! We have many lovely INFP laydeeZ with which to minglerate!

    First of all, I suggested an INFP because of your posts. You're a very sensitive, thoughtful guy who's looking for a love that won't beat him up, but will also provide challenges and room to grow. INFPs are challenging, nurturing and kind while being very mysterious without coming off twee or precious. They're tough as nails too. An ENFJ guy with an INFP girl seems to be an epic love waiting to happen.
    Damn....why didn't I know this? And WOW.....I thought I was a strong "N"....apparently you got skillz
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