I know an ENFJ that is extremely annoying. I think he is at the very least clinically depressed, he could be bipolar or borderline too. He is needy, dependent, love-hungry, emotionally manipulative, and apathetic about his position in life. He whines about how depressed he is, and whenever I've tried to offer up a solution, such as seeing a therapist, listening to more positive music, getting enough sleep each night, etc. he whines even more. He's convinced that the only thing that will get him out of this black hole is the love from another women. He acts as though he has no control over his emotions. Wow. He really bugs me.
ENFJs are always right... even when they aren't. They also can do odd things like insist that there are deep meanings in the lyrics to Metallica songs and calling me an evil cold hearted bitch for not crying at movies when I know how they end because they're based on a true story that everyone should know. ENFJs know the answers to everything... even when they don't. They also sometimes do horrible and odd things like listen to the same song or watch the same movie over and over and over and make a poor ISTP want to kill them!
These are things that all 3 ENFJs I know do rather consistantly!
Aah, hate is a strong word. And in order to hate someone you need to have loved him / her before.
Personally I don't hate any ENFJs so far. But if I will have to, I'll let you know early enough to not even come that far.
Rule #1: Driver picks the music. Shotgun shuts his cakehole.
The passive-aggressive comments of ENFJ's sometimes annoy me as well as their need to put me in my place morally and socially as I consider that often hypocritical and intolerant (I have a problem with authority ). But most of the time I can have a lot of fun with them and they're energizing people usually. So hating is not the right word, really.
Also, constantly fishing for sympathy. Whinging about the same things over and over again. When told what to do to fix it, ignoring you, carrying on as before, and continuing to whinge. It gets to the point where you just think, you know what, I really don't care now, carry on and please just stop talking to me.