It's funny that you say that, because my ENFJ friend calls herself emo all the time! Hehe.I guess you could call me an Emo kid
She's working forty hours a week as a waitress and taking twelve credit hours at the same time! Holy Jesus! Is this a prescription for disaster or what? She's doing poorly in all her classes and failing one. She doesn't have time for herself.
L4, I can understand that it's difficult to talk freely and honestly when so many people are watching! It's endearing that you're unsure of yourself but willing to put yourself out there anyway.
I do think this is the source of most, if not all, of my ENFJ friend's problems. It's the source of my problems too. When I don't feel good about myself, I don't feel confident. End of discussion. When I'm not confident, I typically become counter-phobic, for example putting myself out there just to show myself I'm not scared, which usually ends up in me becoming an exaggeration of my real self, or a plain old ass. Another option is that I withdraw from the world. Neither are good. Neither are liberating or happy. I wish I could always be with my confidence. I'm INFP, btw.For some reason it's easy for me to believe that I am a horrible human being and people who know me just don't see it.
I don't know that we'll ever be close friend or truly connect. I'm not even going for that. I would like to see her happy, and I'd like her to know I care. I'll let the friendship unfold or cave in as it will. If she feels comfortable opening up to me some day, I will appreciate her openness and bravery. I know that it takes courage to bear yourself to others.Mempy, you friend may be feeling strains of this which is why she's reluctant to open up to you. Obviously she's in a very bad place and will probably need lots of patience and time to open up.
That's pretty cute! LOL.The runners super appreciated the ridiculous encouragement, too, which only further increased how high he was jumping and how loud he was cheering.
When you don't think you're awesome, it hampers your confidence. That's been my experience. If you don't have internal support, there is nothing to sustain you when all else falls away, and nothing to give you courage in the face of possible unacceptance or rejection.But, what I don't understand, is why he didn't feel comfortable enough to do that in the first place. Do you guys feel that you have to shut out a part of yourselves to be accepted? Do any other ENFJs feel like they can't be themselves around others? Was this simply an age thing for him?