I have an INTP friend who is immensely popular with the ladies. He always tells me that his secret to getting into so many girls' pants is in convincing them that he has a fascinating mind/personality/character just slightly beyond their comprehension. He intentionally allows himself to appear inhuman-on-the-outside/human-inside so that they feel an urge to "humanize" him, a process which often ends in energetic love-making.
It would probably be quite possible for me not only to fall for that, but also not to regret it later. That guy is awesome
Well, this is relevant. Women do seem to more often be intrigued by dark or damaged people.
Originally Posted by compulsiverambler
Maybe because they're more often Fs.
I like unconventional people, people with unusual interests or talents, and people with a dark sense of humor, but all I think when I see someone who is quite visibly damaged or sincerely depraved is that they aren't ever coming within arm's length. I'm not interested in reforming anyone.
I was going to post this under the INFP songs thread, but I don't know that it's an INFP thing. Might be an Fi, NF or Enneagram 4 thing, or just a me thing again. But if anyone has any songs like these to share, please do, because I eat them up, lol. I'm talking about songs that muse on and humanise villains, or reflect on or speculate on their thought process, more fully expose the senseless by forcing it to make some kind of sense. It can either make it sad from a new perspective or seem more obscene, or be startling in how relatable it's made.
It's just refreshing to be reflecting on those issues in a half intelligent way and to explore the human psyche and experience unrestrained by needing to do the predictable thing of explicitly condemning those actions and explicitly expressing sympathy. The sense of horror at the tragedy is conveyed implicitly by the ostensibly pointless, earnest attempts to see more deeply inside the minds of those involved from various angles. You can tell the event or concept has really had an effect on the songwriter and they're trying to break it down in their own way. Some people are offended by songs like these, but I find them enormously powerful and as I said, they make the crimes seem even more sad or obscene or baffling, or just more real; they don't glamourise them.
Is there a type correlation with really 'getting' this kind of thing? I suspect so. There's something quite Fi/NF about being fascinated by the mind of someone you can't understand. And the morbidity is quite 4ish. Either way, do add any others you think of.
What a typical INFP thing to do -- are you an INFP? You can't be an INTP, not with your overtly deliberate attempts to explain how you... feel... about the artistry of certain songs.
Anyway, yes, onto the main topic. The song that best humanizes the inhuman would be the theme song for the telletubbies; they are not human, but that lovely jingle does make them seem a tad bit more lovable and human-like, no?
Also, Seasame Street's theme song does send happy vibrations through my soul. It makes me want to be a friend of Elmo, Oscar and Big Bird. But when you think about it, an abnormally enlarged Bird is really pretty freaking inhuman -- ghastly almost! Another success story! Hope that satisfies your need to humanize the inhuman. It works for me....? The tea party is ready.