I feel exactly the same. I don't know how some people find the moral courage to be whoever they happen to be. Maybe it's an NF thing, to try to smush oneself into whatever people want! And you've just GOT to conform, because the other option, people looking at you weird or maybe ostracizing you, just isn't worth it. Or maybe that's just me
When I look at people who have strong preferences, it amazes me how they harness their gifts/talents. There's this "it" factor that's undeniable. Hands down- I admire that ability to be proud to be who you are, instead of conforming to external standards of living.
Socialization is a tricky thing, and also I think it depends on the mentality of the society.. (on a micro/macro level, which effects our daily interactions in how we communicate with one another) -Some more accepting than others.
A good point. Like, theoretically, if I tried to make my left hand stronger, my right wouldn't get weaker. Why does it feel like I'm losing my N, then?
If you feel like you are becoming zero you are probably trying to develop S at the cost of being your natural N self. I don't think balance is about becoming bland and average. Making a weak function stronger doesn't make your natural strengths weaker.
Too true, too true. Le sigh.
If you totally change yourself to live another ideal, it will leave you empty, cause you just claimed new land in which you are a total foreigner and therefore cant count on a blizzard of new perception
hahahahahaha...absolutely. I always find that I enjoy people with really defined preferences...it's almost like they've elevated their type talents into an art form. I mean, they get so much practice with N or S or whatever because they hardly use the other. The talents that come with whichever extreme function REALLY knock me over because they're so...concentrated??
Yeah I think the whole balance thing is overrated around here, what's the point of balanced preferences anyway? It's like becoming bisexual solely for the sake of balance.
Anyway, I love this discussion and you all are pretty damn insightful. Thanks