I've often felt like, when it comes to smaller details, I have failed my parents. I think, overall though, I have gone above and beyond what they hoped for out of me. When I say this, I mean that I get good grades, help out, pull my weight, I'm a good citizen and follow the law, I'm respectful, and I'm doing the most with the tools I've been provided with by them.. But then it comes to small details (like I don't want to take over my dad's business, I want to be a doctor instead of a lawyer like my parents wanted, I'm not married and having children like my mother wants..) I fall short for them.. There's little I can do about those things, so I try to make up for them in the broader categories.how many of you -especially NFs- feel that you have fulfilled your parents' expectations?
...or perhaps to the contrary, do many of you feel that you often made them sort of 'dissapointed' in you, & what you chose to do/want in life?
I think its difficult, especially growing up, the mentality differences. Now that I am an adult, I can explain myself, I have a status.. being entirely under their rules, it was very hard on me growing up. A good example: My first boyfriend being online and 4 years older than me, something my parents definitely did not approve of.. We fought over that for an entire year until I finally called it off to respect my parent's wishes.and do you think, it's especially hard for NFs type,
especially if our parents are like, NTs, and much especially, if they're an SJs ?..
My youngest sister I believe has an easier time growing up than I did because I'm here and have a status as an adult now to help bridge the communication barriers that she has with them now.