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    I hold grudges a lot. When people do something fucked up to me, it's hard to get over. I'm working on it.

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    I can hold on to pain from decades ago...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    It's an awesome process when done with blissfull emotions though
    Oh yeah, I can still picture and 'hear' my high school Maths teacher grudgingly giving me a 100% score on a test because try as she might she couldn't find any mistakes. Ok, so I'm an INFP nerd :P

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    Oh. This is good. I'm liking the harsh contrast between INFPs. Enneagram types everyone?

    I'd like to see what causes this rift.
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    4w5!

    Also, I'd like to add that you have those that will boil like lava and go pissed, and you've got those that skip that stage and go straight to Ice Queen status and detach, coz it's not worth their effort.

    Fusing the two is imo the ideal combo to deal with life..but that's my own little pet theory
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Outsider View Post
    In fact, I don't relate to the OP at all. I do consider myself unhealthy, but I do not hate myself, being more similar to others is something I do not want. And I don't hold grudges, I really don't. Any kind of prolonged anger is just entirely alien to me.
    Yeah, I don't really relate to the OP either.... I'm 4w5.

    I can hold a grudge, but not a revengeful one that continues to produce emotion. I have an ex best friend whose wedding I attended, but internally I know I could never be friends with her again. So I kind of have a grudge, in that the bridge is forever burned, but I don't feel any active anger towards her at all. It's more of a wariness and decision to keep this person at a distance; I forgave, but I didn't forget. I think trust is the issue there...my trust can be irrevocably lost, but it takes a lot to do that.

    Now, immediately after something has happened, I will be angry and maybe even seek some retribution. I will rant to family or friends about it, but only to the very closest of them, and they usually have to prompt me first. Depending on the severity of the grievance, any anger will start to lessen pretty quickly and turn into wariness or total forgiveness.
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    4w3. I both do and don't hold grudges.

    I won't forget when people hurt me, and I am unwilling to trust that person again unless they give me reason to suspect they've changed their ways. At the same time, I don't relive the anger unless someone says something to remind me of it. Usually I just have my meltdown, cry a bit, deep breaths, and smile again. Takes days at most. When I was younger this process was much slower though...year-long, really.

    EDIT: OrangeAppled said what I did way more eloquently.
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    Interesting. Maybe this comes with functional development? I'm thoroughly intrigued.
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    No, but if I find you to be a horrible, wretched, mean-spirited, asshole of a person, I'll despise you for life.

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    'Cause you can't handle me...

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    Definitely agree with Orange especially.

    I had a friend from ms and hs that simply at one point
    I had enough and just slowly broke away from doing things
    with her. Also today I am very weary of doing anything
    with her as she has drama where ever she goes and
    I don't have the patience for it anymore.

    I can still be civil, like forgive but never forget.
    Told myself I will never do anything with just her
    or a group smaller then four or five thus keeping her
    at arms length. Also never longer then an hour or two.

    One time *in 8th gr* I didn't hug this
    previous boyfriend till the day of my High school graduation
    cause after what he did to me, he was not going to be getting
    a hug from me anytime soon. I'd be civil and say hi, how are you,
    what's up etc. But hug, no he lost that priviledge.

    That especially screams Fi-Si so thought i'd add that in there.
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    Feeling is primarily a process.....that imparts to the content a definite value in the sense of acceptance or rejection. In the same way that thinking organizes the contents of consciousness under concepts, feeling arranges them according to their value. Feeling, like thinking, is a rational function, since values in general are assigned according to the laws of reason...
    (Carl Jung, Psychological Types, Chapter XI - Definitions)

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