This has actually been an issue for years, but I thought now I’d give it a try and start a thread. I’m usually not that uncomfortable with being an ‘I’. But even this specific I needs to have at least some friends around and dates other than historical ones.
I just have such a hard time making either (Oh self pity, thy name is me ).
It has simpy reached a point where I decided that I must do anything about it and not lose any more time.
The two major questions that crossed my mind today are:
What is shyness actually, and how does it evolve?
And most importantly: Is there actually a way to overcome it? I’d be especially grateful for some practical advice here.
I’m sometimes concerned about how other people might perceive me. Chances are that most people know me for not knowing me and think that I’m rather aloof and fairly intellectual (read: nerdy) - not that there’s anything wrong with that; I guess I sort of cultivate this image a bit. But it tends to put people off. I’m really not an unfriendly person, far from it - it's just that I rarely ever make the first move, in almost all of my social interactions. Especially in courting I think it‘s fair to say that this it’s not what is expected of males. This is also where shyness is the biggest issue. Since chances are rather remote that this will change all of a sudden, I guess that I have to change instead. (And it’s not settled yet, but chances are also that I'm beginning to have a crush on someone right now )
I know all of this may sound very non-descriptive for the time being, but I wanted to make this some sort of general thread. Inputs, especially from other male INFPs, would be highly welcome. But of course it's in the public NF forum, and that's where I meant it to be