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    Default NFs and procrastination

    This one has been on my mind for quite a while now.
    I've frequently read it that procrastination is somewhat common among INFJs, but it's been a personal problem of mine as well that has become worse over the course of my studies.

    Is it true that NFs, especially INFs, have a tendency to procrastinate?

    If so, my guess would be that it's (in no particular order) due to:
    - disability/weakness to judge something by objective or external standards,
    - lack of motivation / self confidence,
    - fear of being definitive, and therefore self-restricting,
    - getting distracted easily.

    Can anyone add to the things I've mentioned? Can anyone relate to that? Also, since I guess everyone has experienced this problem every now and then, what do you do about it?
    I've fallen way behind on my schedule and begin to have issues writing even smaller stuff since lately. It's really becoming so frustrating to see that I don't utilize my potential. I know that I'm really good at writing papers once I set my mind to it and start to do it, for crying out loud.
    But I feel almost paralyzed.
    Any input would be highly welcome.

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    I'm a huge procrastinator. If I can get away with it I'll put something off as long as I possibly can, even with things I enjoy.

    The funny thing is as much as I procrastinate, once I start certain things I have trouble stopping. But it's like I dread having to start in the first place.

    It's quite perplexing really.

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    Yes!

    Mostly it's because I just. don't. want to. And so I put it off why? Because I can.

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    I feel like this all the time. I have a big problem with procrastination. Usually the way things work out .... I start something right away and early, get about half way put it down and for some reason have a paralyzing sensation where I cannot finish it. I could sit and stare at it all day and do nothing. There is a direct relationship with this feeling, and the importance of the task. Usually I just have to mentally kick myself constantly to get things done. I really need structure in my life and when left to my own devices without structure I tend too play this procrastination game intensely. I have come to the conclusions it is a fear of failure. Seeing as I lack practicality, I suppose my brain simply thinks, 'well, if I never do it I will never have to worry about the consequences if I do it and it fails!' 'Why try if I'm going to fail anyway?' Little do I realize that by not doing anything I'm missing out on opportunities. I usually don't let this get in the way though. I always get things in on time, if not early, but have a weird failure freak-out lull in the middle of the process.

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    I procrastinate by coming on Type C.

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    It takes me effort to get 'into gear' if I'm not inspired to do something. Once I get into gear it doesn't last long, but as long as I have the mindset to get a certain distance with the work, I can get it done. I tend to work more efficiently with tangible tasks like organizing and cleaning my room rather than, say, writing an essay.
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    I don't know how not to procrastinate.

    I show up for work late every day, I usually don't even start driving to work until I'm supposed to be there. Every time I get a traffic citation, I don't go to the municipal court until a month after the fine is due, and then I ask for extension, whether I have the money to pay it or not. Oh my temp license plate expired last week, I think I can manage another week before a cop will notice....

    Then comes school, absolutely nothing done till the day of the test. The only way I know how to study is to cram everything thing I need to know in my short term memory right before a test is coming. When the teacher gives a detailed syllabus about our assignments, and how much everything is worth, I will calculate the bear minimum, then do absolutely nothing in the class until it gets to the point where if I don't get a perfect score on every assignment from then on I will be guaranteed to fail.

    Back in high school, I would do nothing until the teacher actually forced me to do assignments, simply cause I knew that the lowest grade a teacher could submit at the end of a grading period was a 50%. Then as the year ended I'd figure out what I need to make on the rest of the grading periods/exams to get my 70% and my credit, or if they offered credit by exam or some other alternative, I would just stop going to class and do that instead.

    I am a pathological slacker, and I fall in these habits no matter how hard I try to do otherwise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    Is it true that NFs, especially INFs, have a tendency to procrastinate?
    My INFJ wife of 15 years is affected by this, as is my ENFJ friend of 20 years.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    If so, my guess would be that it's (in no particular order) due to:
    - disability/weakness to judge something by objective or external standards,
    This is "strong" N. It seems to me that strong N can do that, compel a person to consistently try to find IDEAL solutions (whether objective or not) in lieu of EXTERNAL (e.g. those of your syllabus describing the paper) standards.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    - lack of motivation / self confidence,
    I've seen this in both, yes, but I think it is a secondary...

    Again, I've seen this generally in both my INFJ and ENFJ, but never HEARD them state that they doubt their own ability, it is just apparent they do in observing their passivity to things that I know they could easily exert influence/mastery over. Is part of this phenomena the XNFJ need for harmony, and general aversion to conflict unless necessary?

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    - fear of being definitive, and therefore self-restricting,
    Right. Things can always be "better" but at some point they need to be "good enough" in order to move on and complete other tasks. This is part of time management skills, and also learned when you must triage large amounts of tasks by priority.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    - getting distracted easily.
    You have NO idea how much an issue this is for EXTPs. I have major ADHD, I know alot of ENTPs who state similar experience.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    Can anyone add to the things I've mentioned?
    Yes. That INFJs don't like to be asked questions and then required to answer immediately. This could be part of the issue.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    Can anyone relate to that?
    See above.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    Also, since I guess everyone has experienced this problem every now and then, what do you do about it?
    I literally force myself to do things like this. I hate the "details" of a paper (Works Cited, research for sources, quotes/citations, etc.) so I do those tasks at the fornt end.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    I've fallen way behind on my schedule and begin to have issues writing even smaller stuff since lately.
    Divide and conquer. Prioritize yiour taks, and do the most important first. Force yourself to sit down and work on them for at least an hour. Do this several times per day until you are making progress, keep at it until you are caught up. Other things will have to wait, you will live, I swear.

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    It's really becoming so frustrating to see that I don't utilize my potential.
    Again, welcome to the world of the EXTP! To be blunt: Get off you ass and do your work!

    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    I know that I'm really good at writing papers once I set my mind to it and start to do it, for crying out loud.
    That's part of the problem, you are good at it, and you know it, and therefore you are subvconsciously OK with procerastinating...

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    But I feel almost paralyzed.
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    Any input would be highly welcome.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nzAShadow View Post
    I don't know how not to procrastinate.

    I show up for work late every day, I usually don't even start driving to work until I'm supposed to be there. Every time I get a traffic citation, I don't go to the municipal court until a month after the fine is due, and then I ask for extension, whether I have the money to pay it or not. Oh my temp license plate expired last week, I think I can manage another week before a cop will notice....

    Then comes school, absolutely nothing done till the day of the test. The only way I know how to study is to cram everything thing I need to know in my short term memory right before a test is coming. When the teacher gives a detailed syllabus about our assignments, and how much everything is worth, I will calculate the bear minimum, then do absolutely nothing in the class until it gets to the point where if I don't get a perfect score on every assignment from then on I will be guaranteed to fail.

    Back in high school, I would do nothing until the teacher actually forced me to do assignments, simply cause I knew that the lowest grade a teacher could submit at the end of a grading period was a 50%. Then as the year ended I'd figure out what I need to make on the rest of the grading periods/exams to get my 70% and my credit, or if they offered credit by exam or some other alternative, I would just stop going to class and do that instead.

    I am a pathological slacker, and I fall in these habits no matter how hard I try to do otherwise.
    That sounds like adult ADHD my friend. Every line of it, the numerous traffic citations and everything, and the first and last sentences in particular. I really think you should get checked out, because your ability to compensate for it and the consequences are only likely to worsen the longer you leave it. I've been there, and I have to tell you, the experts' warnings about that aren't exaggerated. :sad:

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    I have an extreme lack of motivation, or at least when it comes to things like household chores or schoolwork. I don't care therefore I see no reason to do it.
    "If A is a success in life then X+Y+Z=A. X is work, Y is play and Z is keeping your mouth shut." -Albert Einstein

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