I feel like that does happen to me. I keep everything in generally, and I want others to see it. In order for others to "see it", I just shut myself off. I WANT them to care, but when they indicate they do, I brush them off to the point that they think I just want to be alone.
And then they leave me alone and I get frustrated that no one cares and somehow, in some manner, I lash out and let it all go. Sometimes I argue with someone who's related to the problem or I just rant at someone else or I take it out in some other way.
Hm...I don't know Jake are we? 'Cause if we are, I'm prepared to bring out the big guns!
In answer though:
I wan't being conceited, I was being tongue-in-cheek. I thought the smiley face gave it away -->
Smiley faces, Sanntu, SMILEY FACES!!
Good morning everyone.
Yes, and I was being deadpan
I was not 100% sure of the joke tho, but I gave it a chance (and did my deadpan line). Seriously, you can be lovable and you probably are. It's just that people think that some merits go away when you say them outloud. One very smart (my level, +3 std devs higher than average) lady looked upon me once and asked, "do you think it's a smart thing to say you're smart?"
And I could tell the social structures, teaching and all going behind that statement. SHe expected that smarts would play out as a behaviour that would maximize one's egalitarian image in a situation that she expected to ask for egalitarian attitudes. Yet that was only her interpretation based on her values. Well.
I think the lovability is in the same league. I was joking; yet there was serious point. It may go away when advertised. How volatile, isn't it?
Yep, me too. In 99% of the cases, my mind plays out all sorts of crazy trajectories and then rationality hits and I can calm myself down pretty easily. Also turning Te on full force helps distinguish the paranoia from situations where fear should be induced (we're so trusting sometimes that the opposite isn't helpful either).