I’m going to keep this fairly short…I have a friend who has tested INFJ, though I sometimes think she may be INFP/INFx. Certainly one of those.
She has had a rather difficult life all told, but I feel like she is making things so much more difficult for herself. She is very sensitive – I always thought I was, but she definitely trumps me (actually, for me a lot of things are water of a duck's back, with the occasional thing that hurts me out of all measure - other things don't bother me, or I keep them inside) – and it’s like most people just can’t win with her. I am more or less ok, because I am a trusted friend of a few years’ standing, but with most of our mutual friends and acquaintances at the moment, no such luck. If they leave her alone, they’re cold and uncaring and she’s all alone in the world. If they ask her how she’s doing, they’re prying into her life and she just wants to be left alone. I mean, seriously!!! :steam:
She sometimes tells me I can’t really understand because I haven’t gone through what she’s gone through in her life. Which is kind of true, but at least I try to understand. I think in my case she does appreciate that. But most people just can’t win with her… The fact that she is suffering from depression and bad health is not helping.
How does an INFJ get to this point? And how can I help her? Can I?