So currently I'm sharing a room with my 17 year old ENFJ sister while I'm awaiting to go to college and some patterns have occured in our communication with eachother. I find that I simply do not know how to relate to her at all. I mean, we dont fight but we dont talk either. She does NOT like to be touched (ex. hugs). She's a very out going person around people outside our house. She's very much the one to be first and going into a new situation, almost fearless, but at home she keeps to herself and doesnt speak very often. When I've asked her why she doesnt talk to me much the usually replys with "you dont talk to me, why I should I talk to you?". But I've told her over and over again that when ever I try to talk to her, she ignores me like anything I say is stupid and isn't important. At that point she ignores me once again...
She holds grudges forever, but she doesnt seem lead by her emotions...which is weird because she claims she's an ENFJ, that the discription was right on. I've never seen her move a muscle towards anything emotional. I've never seen her cry-ever. In fact, I've never seen her being too emotional period.
She isn't extremely bright, I mean she may but she really plays the stupid factor alot and tends to hurt peoples feelings easily and when she's confronted about it, she just goes "whatttt?" with a really dumb look on her face like she has no idea what your talking about. She has this nose in the air attitude towards everyone in our house. It frusterates me because she domains our room, telling me what to do even though I'm clearily older than her.
So is there any sane way I can communicate with her? Any way to get her to open up? Or are we simply wrong about her type as well? I'm not sure, I'm just tired of this coldness living in my room.
Edit: just to note, I'm writting this without any frusteration towards my sister. I just decided I'd like to know her, and this is the information I thought would be useful to do so.