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    I'm feeling mean. Is this a serious question? Wtf man!

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    I'm often torn between doing my own thing and doing things with others.

    I genuinely love people, but for me, socializing requires making a lot of compromises and adjustments, which can be draining at times.

    For example----I am naturally spontaneous and energetic, which is often appreciated, but there are some situations where it is inappropriate to be bouncing off the walls.

    In order to be considerate of others, I will moderate my jokes in certain company, make an effort to speak slowly and clearly, or be especially attentive to someone who's speech is hard to follow, etc.....

    This requires patience, more than energy.

    In other words, it requires keeping my energy in check, rather than expending energy.

    So, when I need to be alone, it's not so much to regain energy, but to regain the freedom to be spontaneous and energetic again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by alcea rosea View Post
    To the original question.

    I'm not tired after lots of socialicing but I'm tired after having lots of people around in our house. It's because the fussing around when quests makes me tired. I mean all that household acitivities of cleaning up, making dinners, lunches, offering this and that, trying to keep everybody happy.

    If I'm visiting somebody elses house with lots of people, I don't get tired at all.

    So for me, visitors cause tiredness because it involves so much activities I have to do not because I would be tired of people and conversations.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gerbah View Post
    If you are just too tired right now I would just be honest about it to your friend. If she's your friend, she'll respect that. You could just talk on the phone if it will help her. But it sounds like you've made the commitment to the plans to go to her place already. Maybe make it clear that after this, this is all you can spare of your energy for the time being.
    Yeah, I'm definately going to have to. I did infact tell her this after the last round, but she is so down right now. It does matter to me, quite alot to be there for my friends, because I do know what it's like to be alone during those times, and it's not fun.

    Quote Originally Posted by alcea rosea View Post
    To the original question.

    I'm not tired after lots of socialicing but I'm tired after having lots of people around in our house. It's because the fussing around when quests makes me tired. I mean all that household acitivities of cleaning up, making dinners, lunches, offering this and that, trying to keep everybody happy.

    If I'm visiting somebody elses house with lots of people, I don't get tired at all.

    So for me, visitors cause tiredness because it involves so much activities I have to do not because I would be tired of people and conversations.

    Yes, me too. I could crash at my friends for ages because I'm not responsible for it, I guess I'm just exhausted from being the host.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Linguist View Post
    Yes, this happens to me. In fact, I hardly socialize at all because I work so much. And if I work too much without a break in sight, I get grumpy or irritable, or at worst physically ill. Everyone needs their down time.

    However, no one would claim I'm an introvert.
    Haha yes I was like that when I was working, before the kids, and actually it always led to me quitting my job because I was overworking myself which meant no downtime because all my time off was used partying.

    Quote Originally Posted by Elaur View Post
    Any mother of 3 kids who has 4 kids over and a friend is going to get tired out. It's really not introvert/extrovert. Of course I'm ENFP, too. But yes, totally and entirely normal.

    I think you also need to take time to decide if you need to put another 9 days into this. You don't need to kill yourself to try to keep someone else even. You are taking too much of yourself for this. You have a responsibilty to your kids to stay even, not to sacrifice yourself for someone else. You are going to have issues staying even if you wear yourself out so much. [/end lecture]

    I hear what you're saying, and I agree, I just find it hard to put myself before others that I care about, which is obviously silly because I do need to care about me too.

    I intend to cool it down, I can't be the crutch that props her up all the time, for her (esfp) she is an extreme E, never stops socialising, for me it's never been like that, I have my break point alot sooner.

    So after this holiday break, I fully intend to take time off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Viv View Post
    ^I agree. Hats off to you.. I mean, having kids alone can be tiresome, can't it? Mommy is a huge role to play 24/7, and on top of that, to have company over for that period of time? Anyone would feel drained out..

    Sounds like you need a break, and that is totally fine!
    Heh, I was beginnning to question my extroversion based on this, good to hear other E's would also get drained.


    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Yeah, it's not the socializing that is tiring, it is the *hosting*. I love events and parties and I even enjoy throwing them or having a role in them, but you just can't enjoy them the same way. You're too busy antipcating and minding things and people. Your mind as well as your body is "all hands on deck". I also have no problem having close friends over my house and not doing anything in particular (just hanging out) and even offering food and drink and activities but if it were someone I did not know as well it would be more stressful because I would be more mindful and not be able to relax as much.
    Yes, much as I enjoy being a good hostess, I hate the details that go with it, and I find the details of running a 3 kid ship hard enough as it is.


    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    I'm often torn between doing my own thing and doing things with others.

    I genuinely love people, but for me, socializing requires making a lot of compromises and adjustments, which can be draining at times.

    For example----I am naturally spontaneous and energetic, which is often appreciated, but there are some situations where it is inappropriate to be bouncing off the walls.

    In order to be considerate of others, I will moderate my jokes in certain company, make an effort to speak slowly and clearly, or be especially attentive to someone who's speech is hard to follow, etc.....

    This requires patience, more than energy.

    In other words, it requires keeping my energy in check, rather than expending energy.

    So, when I need to be alone, it's not so much to regain energy, but to regain the freedom to be spontaneous and energetic again.

    Yes, this is it for me too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    I'm feeling mean. Is this a serious question? Wtf man!
    No, this isn't a serious quesion, it's not even a question, infact this isn't even a thread, and you aren't sitting infront of a screen. You are fast asleep on your bed having a dream, just a dream.
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    The concept of having three kids is intimidating to me.

    I only want one.

    I get worn the fuck out if I am in constant company of others.

    I like to seclude myself in my womb cave, introspect then go outside and play with and off others.

    I have always had a hermit side.

    Especially with the advent of the internet.

    I could absolutely move to a beautiful place in the middle of nowhere with my man, and our hypothetical kid and blissfully just be (with our wifi) and a weekly visit into the city, and a yearly monthly visit to NY or LA.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    The concept of having three kids is intimidating to me.
    It still is to me too. :horor:

    I only want one.

    I get worn the fuck out if I am in constant company of others.

    I like to seclude myself in my womb cave, introspect then go outside and play with and off others.

    I have always had a hermit side.

    Especially with the advent of the internet.

    I could absolutely move to a beautiful place in the middle of nowhere with my man, and our hypothetical kid and blissfully just be (with our wifi) and a weekly visit into the city, and a yearly monthly visit to NY or LA.

    Yeah, I could do that too, only minus the man, but with the number of a good full service male escort company who could send someone new out every now and again when I felt frisky.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BerberElla View Post
    It still is to me too. :horor:



    Yeah, I could do that too, only minus the man, but with the number of a good full service male escort company who could send someone new out every now and again when I felt frisky.
    You crack me up.



    I must admit, there is a part of me that wants to taste and fuck everything, just for experience sake.

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