7 years later, I can do it. It is still hard, but I can handle it. So basically, my first ESTJ boss did me a favor by helping me overcome my fears of being the "focus". I still want AT LEAST a days notice if I have to get in front of people for any reason.
The good news, too, was that people that I had known for 19 years stated that they had NO IDEA that I had a problem with being a focus-type of person. Some have stated that I always look cool as a cucumber and pleasant. Can you believe that? I guess I had practiced enough that I have become a good enough actress when I need to be. Thank GOD for that!
I still prefer to eat lunch by myself in the car or at my computer in my office (I can catch up on my email or look at some sites). I, for some reason, HATE to go to restaurants alone and eat. I guess I feel sorry for folks who eat alone in restaurants. They look so, so lonely. :sad:I would always sit alone at lunch, because i was happy that way, but they thought it was just completely unusual for someone to WANT to sit alone at lunch, so a bunch of them started sitting with me and trying to get me to carry on conversation with them which i would indeed try to do, although i have no idea what to say to people that i don't know and don't know how to relate to. I always felt like they were discouraging me when i did speak and most of the things we discussed usually turned into some sort of an argument, because one of them would say something that offended me or went against something i valued. I couldn't stand most of them, but for some reason they seemed to like me, and sat with me for almost a whole year at lunch.
Every once in a while, I will go to the lunchroom with a friend to catch up. That's always cool.
Over all these many years, I could tell that some of the guys that I worked with liked me, but all were married. Pretty much all the men that I know KNOW how I feel about women dating married men... it is totally wrong in my book; married men are absolutely and totally OFF LIMITS!!! :1377: So, between eating lunch by myself and my strong belief system, thankfully, I don't have that problem.A lot of them tried to date me even, which baffled me, because i wasn't interested in dating someone that i didn't relate to and would constantly have to argue to get them to understand my opinions.
I'm with you, sistah!I guess i got a little off topic there, but anyway it's still sad to hear that people would less want to be INFPs. We are good, generally selfless people who care about people and values on a totally different level than others, i think that should be respected and i'm glad a few people here enjoy our company.