I was always wondering - if INFJs are often sometimes removed from people that they're not close to and don't deeply trust, how do you get become part of their inner circle, and get them to trust you. This is hard especially if they already have an inner circle. Sometimes, they also try and "save" you, and that's also very detrimental to relationship building in my opinion.
How do you get their attention, get past the initial awkwardness if there is any, become someone that they like, and deepen the relationship?
I've done it before, but it always takes a huge amount of effort, a lot of initial rejection, then a really really awkward phase, after which comes a really long period of light friendship, before finally we become close friends. This process can take years. So I must be doing something wrong.