Infj's do you relate to this at all???? Which parts?
I have decided I am more infj than other types. I have been told a lot lately at work that I am too quiet. I don't understand people's interpretation of me, because outside of work with people that I love and am close with I can be fun, outgoing, and quirky. I wonder if these are traits related to all infjs.
- I like to listen rather than talk. If you are talking about something I'm highly interested in, I will come bubbling to life but a lot of times I like to talk about other people(you) not myself. I make generalizations about everyday things and have a hard time giving lots of details about what to me only takes a couple sentences to explain, so many times I am short and to the point.
-In a new setting, my Ni is on overdrive and I am taking in the environment and making connections. I have no desire to take control of the room but prefer to listen and figure out my surroundings. Many people might see me as detached, shy, or quiet but really I am content in just observing and understanding and offering my opinion when asked.
Also with this, I have found if I find somebody uninteresting or mundane, I will stay in my own little world and ignore them and the conversation. I find myself daydreaming sometimes in groups of people I don't connect with or see no need to talk to, and while others see me as shy its really because I have no input for the conversation or no desire to contribute. In new environments I almost always have a guard on while I am figuring it out or deciding if they are worth my voice. At work I don't go out of my way to speak to people in the elevator or to meet new people. This is mostly because I have no desire to unless there is something particularly compelling about them that turns into a friendship.
-On the otherhand, if I am at a party with friends or family that I love, I open up and can ramble on and on. I find that I only do this with people I trust or who I see value in though. With the right connection I can talk nonstop for hours and hours on end making the other person the listener.