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    Unhappy Bloody INFPs and their capacity to turn INTJs into fuzzy hug addicts.

    Seriously? I just had my heart broken into little tiny pieces by the most cuddly, wonderful INFP. He turned me into a cuddle addict and then went away.

    How do you guys DO that? I made every romantic gesture I could think of, and got rejected about as badly as you can possibly imagine. He flirted, had deep conversations with me, petted me into total submission, charmed me with his kindness and sweetness, and then after I had poured forth all the emotions he had stirred up in me, dumped me so coldly that I can't help but wonder if his breakup method was intentional...to give me the capacity to feel anger instead of just pain. It seems like the kind of thing he might have done if he realized it wasn't going to work.

    Which just irritates me. Really, he should have known I was capable of understanding that he simply didn't feel the same for me as I did for him, and now I feel worse because I was wrong about his character, not because I was rejected.

    How do you people turn the iciest, most rational bitch queen into a hopelessly enamored puppy, and why on earth would you do it on purpose (and there WAS intent on his part to seduce me emotionally)...then be done with us?

    I just want to know why? I don't hate INFPs; I'll certainly choose another one if I can, because I really LIKED being petted and snuggled--just hopefully not one with as many issues.

    Ow. Broken heart HURTS.

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    Awww sweety
    Heartbreak always sucks. Fwiw, I doubt he did it on purpose, nor that you were wrong about his character. I would say however, that he probably isn't perfect when it comes to dealing with difficult emotional situations, such as break-ups as he might be fearing conflict..something NFPs tend to avoid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cranky View Post
    Ow. Broken heart HURTS.

    I'm sorry.

    I know...From very recent experience.

    No strings attached...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Biaxident View Post

    No strings attached...
    Aww. Oh, wait. DAMN you and your hugs. DO NOT LIKE.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Fwiw, I doubt he did it on purpose, nor that you were wrong about his character. :
    There's a problem here. I was wrong about his character, and he was capable of deliberately hurting me quite badly || He was mean to make me angry instead of hurt || He simply didn't care enough about me and my feelings after dating for months to be kind.

    Those are the only three options I can see.

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    I apologize.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Biaxident View Post
    I apologize.
    AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH

    Ok, thanks for making me laugh. I needed that ;-)

    (also, I possibly DESERVED that)

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    Eh, I've done somewhat similar and got scared when I found the heat in the freezer. It was so pure and so real that I felt unworthy and ran. She was INTP and I was such a child...
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    It is the strangest thing when someone gets into your core like that, isn't it? I'm sorry they didn't understand what it means for an INTJ to let someone in like that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cranky View Post
    AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH

    Ok, thanks for making me laugh. I needed that ;-)

    (also, I possibly DESERVED that)

    Don't make me break out the hug again....

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