Cranky
New member
- Joined
- Oct 5, 2009
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 5w6
Yes...that's about right. Only it took me until just recently to realize that it had even happened
*mopes*
Anyway, recognizing that you've been hurt (an isolated incident of hurt perpetrated by one individual who is now missing out) seems to be a good first step for maintaining optimism.
It would be illogical to assume that all men are like him; I have ample proof to the contrary.
My problem is not that I was hurt, nor that he's not around (although those are serious problems). My problem is that I am so picky that it seems unrealistic that another person will come along who combines not only the set of traits that I require to be comfortable with a person romantically, but also the chemistry to make me WANT to try with them.
I can intellectually accept the idea of being alone, because I quite enjoy being free and unaffected by another person's problems and neuroses. Unfortunately, now I KNOW what it's like to be in love like that, and it makes it unlikely that I'll be able to settle for anything less than that intensity of feeling.