I think the inability to decide is more like the Ni not picking up a clear picture
Once the aha moment happens, we have no problem
Manipulation......in a healthy way, it is regarded as charm
Turned sour apple and offering it to others like Eve to Adam......its Fe needing to feed off of other's emotions and reactions, and being in some form of control
My ENFJ friend would never use that sort of tactic (the cancer lie). Neither of us like conflict, but we're both even less comfortable with the tension that results if conflict isn't addressed. Once we talk about it, we both feel better...and the air is clear.
"Idealists expect to discover a deeper meaning in almost everything, as profound truths can be extrapolated from even the most transparent of subjects. We would do well to realize, though, that some things are exactly what they seem." ~Myself