[ENFJ] ENFJs accused of indecision and manipulation

[Coeur]

Bold-faced lie? Wow, that ENFJ is immature and lacking creativity. Could be that your friend knew you could see through her so well and felt like that was her last resort.
-Fuzzy

She didn't realize that I know someone who knows the people that were "in the hospital dying." Uncreative? No, just stupid. The facts of her own story didn't match up.

Suggestion to unhealthy ENFJs out there: Conflict doesn't HAVE to be the end of the world. >.< Stuff like this is what makes conflict damaging to relationships.

 

[Shadow1969]

Wow, saying multiple people are dying of cancer to resolve conflict? Sounds like a wuss to me. I am an ENFJ and I can't even fathom doing that...

 

[ceecee]

Wow, saying multiple people are dying of cancer to resolve conflict? Sounds like a wuss to me. I am an ENFJ and I can't even fathom doing that...

hehe I asked my ENFJ about this scenario tonight. He looked at me like I had three heads.

 

[Thursday]

I think the inability to decide is more like the Ni not picking up a clear picture
Once the aha moment happens, we have no problem

Manipulation......in a healthy way, it is regarded as charm
Turned sour apple and offering it to others like Eve to Adam......its Fe needing to feed off of other's emotions and reactions, and being in some form of control

 

[SheWaits]

My ENFJ friend would never use that sort of tactic (the cancer lie). Neither of us like conflict, but we're both even less comfortable with the tension that results if conflict isn't addressed. Once we talk about it, we both feel better...and the air is clear.