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    Oh sure, definitely. My need for feeling connected to people, and for feeling understood, is quite strong, and I rarely experience it in real life - or on forums either, actually. Part of the fear's probably imagined (as in, I know there are people on here I connect well with, I just sometimes forget that), but part of it's real too (as in, I know there are people on here who don't like me and who I annoy the crap out of). And, self-imposed to some degree, maybe (as in, if I was more socially savvy and less cautious, I'd be less worried, my best self would shine through more often, I'd be confident, and thus wouldn't be fearful and wouldn't care, so the whole thing would be a non-issue).

    So yeah, I definitely edit posts, re-edit, sometimes hold back, and quite often think no one relates to anything I write and I'm just a big weirdo who no one relates with because people *don't* quote me. Haha!! So how's that for you? Some cringe at being quoted, and here I am, thinking most of my posts fall into the black abyss of internet nothingness, and feel I'm a total alien half the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco View Post

    So yeah, I definitely edit posts, re-edit, sometimes hold back, and quite often think no one relates to anything I write and I'm just a big weirdo because people *don't* quote me. Haha!! So how's that for you? Some cringe at being quoted, and here I am, thinking most of my posts fall into the black abyss of internet nothingness, and feel I'm a total alien half the time.
    I'll quote you, there do you feel better or more valued now?

    I know I've started quite a few threads that had short or miniscule lifetimes...

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    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco View Post

    So yeah, I definitely edit posts, re-edit, sometimes hold back, and quite often think no one relates to anything I write and I'm just a big weirdo who no one relates with because people *don't* quote me. Haha!! So how's that for you? Some cringe at being quoted, and here I am, thinking most of my posts fall into the black abyss of internet nothingness, and feel I'm a total alien half the time.
    So what's this nonsense about no one quoting you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaguar View Post
    So what's this nonsense about no one quoting you?
    I know, totally. See, now its a quote in a quote [assuming it shows up].

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    Must... care.. about... how people... think... about me....
    Well if I'm going to get sensitive and emotional over a bunch of words I might as well do it in style.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaguar View Post
    So what's this nonsense about no one quoting you?
    I could like quote her and put it underneath my text area and that way ALL of my posts would quote her. That'd be a lot of quoting! Then we could all be like "Cascade, yu SO popular!" [<-note asian lady accent there]

    Somehow, I don't think that would be appreciated though...

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    I could try and act like people's words and actions towards me don't matter, but they do. Even on a forum, I feel the praise from others or the critique from others quite well. For me, the internet can be a social outlet/replacement. If in reality someone's insult would hurt me, it will probably hurt me translated into text and put on a screen. Maybe not in the same way, though.

    Just being honest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ragingkatsuki View Post
    Must... care.. about... how people... think... about me....
    Well if I'm going to get sensitive and emotional over a bunch of words I might as well do it in style.
    You call that style??

    Quote Originally Posted by Scott N Denver
    I could like quote her and put it underneath my text area and that way ALL of my posts would quote her. That'd be a lot of quoting! Then we could all be like "Cascade, yu SO popular!" [<-note asian lady accent there]

    Somehow, I don't think that would be appreciated though...
    Do it! It'll be funny!


    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco
    So yeah, I definitely edit posts, re-edit, sometimes hold back, and quite often think no one relates to anything I write and I'm just a big weirdo who no one relates with because people *don't* quote me. Haha!! So how's that for you? Some cringe at being quoted, and here I am, thinking most of my posts fall into the black abyss of internet nothingness, and feel I'm a total alien half the time.
    Having your posts ignored is just as bad. I don't want to be ignored, but putting your mind out there, and having someone notice it, quote it, and say their opinion of it, it also intimidating, especially for a newcomer like me. I think with more time foruming I'll get used to it. I hope.


    Actually, the fact that you're dealing with strangers on foruming could be seen to make it MORE intimidating, because you have no idea what great, intelligent, better-than-you people you're dealing with, or who's going to jump out and disagree with you. Whereas with something like facebook, you know exactly what people you are dealing with and can predict how they will react.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adoamros View Post
    I could try and act like people's words and actions towards me don't matter, but they do. Even on a forum, I feel the praise from others or the critique from others quite well. For me, the internet can be a social outlet/replacement. If in reality someone's insult would hurt me, it will probably hurt me translated into text and put on a screen. Maybe not in the same way, though.

    Just being honest.
    That puts it really well. I make fun of myself for it cos I anticipate others saying.. "But it's just anonymous, who cares, etc". But it is in fact a small piece of you you're putting out there, so it still hurts if someone criticizes it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by souffle View Post
    You call that style??
    Well it's certainly more stylish than anyone else who talked about feelings in this thread. If you still can't comprehend it then imagine a guy in the middle of a desert, throat all dry and helplessly crawling on the floor saying that while a shady figure awaits him under a palm tree on an oasis nearby. Should certainly be more stylish now.

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