I care about my image very much, both physically and perceptually.
I get my hair done regularly, I enjoy wearing makeup. I like looking as fashionable as I can afford to look.
Perceptually, I'm probably even more image conscious and my professional/casual divide is very strong. Professionally, I'm very into impression management and I'm a moderately high self-monitorer. To me it's more or less about taking on certain characters and roles as the situation calls for it.
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I notice with NFs though, it tends to go one way or the other. They either don't care much at all about their appearance, or they put a lot of thought into it and assign it all kinds of symbolism. I'm guilty of the latter
i've been on both sides of the spectrum. i've always been restrictive with fashion choices when i get stressed (J --> Fe anxiety), but yet still very particular. when i am feeling extroverted i tend to experiment a lot more and go thru periods of expansion. and then of course are the times when i just go thru that flippant tossed together sort of approach bc i'm seriously distracted by my thoughts/feelings and don't pay attention to what others think at all while i'm wearing the same clothes 3 days later.
as a 5w4 as soon as i feel capable, i become very very expressive. but when stressed i just sort of withdraw expression in many areas of my life.
is this similar with 4w5s? or does 4w5 expression under stress just get wild and hysterical?
I consider myself to be quasi low key about looks. I don't care about designer names, don't do anything with my hair other than a quick bun, and I hate clothes shopping. It's torture to me. My clothes are usually chosen based on what is clean (or the cleanest) and requires little to no ironing.
On the other hand, I don't go out without my make-up on and clothes matched and at least mostly wrinkle-free. I tend to like classic styles that are simple and clean with a little hint at fun. I frequently hear that I look nice, look dressed up, look well put together, that sort of thing. I think it is because the skirt and top I throw on is more dressy than the sweats and t-shirt some do. I don't mind others wearing sweats, but I would feel very under dressed to go out in public in them.
I guess you could say that I do care about my appearance, but am not narcissistic about it. I find that others care about my appearance far more than I do, which makes me self-conscious.
Oh! And hi! I'm new and came looking for some people who might "get" me and help me to "get" others.
I'm very image conscious, I always try to look really tidy, clean and neat - matching clothes, hair done, nails done, a little bit of makeup. I sometimes wear scruffy clothes, but usually only in my more rebellious moments - from time to time I enjoy shocking people with sudden changes in my appearance
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We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull; some have weird names and all are different colours, but they all have to live in the same box.