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    Did he take one look at the results or one look at your head?

    Sorry, I couldn't help myself...

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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    I tested as an INFP when I was sixteen.... I was a total INFP child... and yet I have spent the last nine months trying to prove to myself and others that I am a succession of other personality types- INTP, INFJ, INTJ, ISFP, ISTP, ENFP.

    Why? Why am/was I so adamant against being an INFP?

    Possibilities:

    1. They can seem so full of themselves sometimes... elitist, condescending, superior, judgmental, etc, or at the least, profoundly self-absorbed. (Pot calling the kettle black? )

    2. It seems like such a cliche to be an INFP, especially when you are a writer (which I am) and have thought about being an English teacher, musician, artist. I want to be a contradiction, not one of the mold, which is such an INFP thing, non?

    3. I am not spiritual.

    4. I don't have a deep-seated desire to help others, although I am constantly rescuing insects, mice, etc.

    I know there's more, but I don't feel like expounding at the moment. Besides, I'm curious as to whether other's have had this issue, INFP or not.

    Have any of you not wanted to be the type you actually are?
    I love being who I am (which is INTP with an insane focus on N and a pretty strong Fe sense). I love how when I look at the world it is just a magical place, because I'm looking at how it all interconnects; I see past connected to present to future, I see everything as a continuum of change, I see where things will end up instantaneously, I understand things in intuitive flashes, I make good decisions because I think well and am not swept away by strong emotions....

    ...but sometimes I wish socializing was easier for me, just making connections without having to work so damn hard all the time.

    I wish I could exude more warmth, so people knew that I loved them rather than it being trapped inside so often.

    I wish it was easier for me to give of my money, time, and energy.

    I wish I wasn't so fair all the time, I wish I could prioritize myself higher in my mind rather than always. I tire of being "rational" sometimes. I wish I could just be myopic on occasion, rather than the one who sees what has to be done for the greater good and then doing it first.

    I wish I could hold grudges more often, I wish I could let myself be angry longer, but as soon as the situation changes, I have to change to accommodate it, and if someone is truly sorry, even if they're going to screw up again and again, I can't help but forgive them because that's fair or because I believe that no one else's behavior should have bearing on my own.

    I wish I could make decisions easier and without having to consider all the nuance, sometimes it makes it hard for me to get things done.

    I wish I could be happy finishing tasks rather than fearing I lopped something off in my attempts to complete it.

    I wish I could move to a new place in life and be happy, rather than always crying inside because of what I have to leave behind. Every joy comes with a loss.

    I wish I wasn't so happy and so empty being alone all the time.

    You know, stuff like that.

    ... I think INFPs have some issues like everyone else, but they're also pretty cool people. We are who we are.
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    Hey, I've just gone through the whole thread and I must say that I LOVE IT!
    That's like a great story about self-discovery.

    Oh, and I wouldn't be surprised that 'so many INFPs are showing up', I'd say that NF-types must be overrepresented at forums like that. After all we're all into search for self. Just check the number of posts on all of the quadras - NFs rule.
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    I think telling someone they're "mule-headed" is a great sneaky way to get them onside. It sounds like an insult (and thus gets past the flattery-filters), but will almost always be taken as a compliment. And how many people really consider themselves tractable? Nobody is likely to dispute it with any conviction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by William K View Post
    Well, most people will call it stubborness
    I did a profiling test (DISC) for my job once, and the guy who administered the test took one look at the results and said I was mule-headed

    well, of course an employer would see it in a negative light.

    they want to be able to guide their worker bees, and not have a pesky sense of personal morale on the workers' parts to have to work around.

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    ^ Something I've noticed is that you can choose to see qualities in a negative or positive light. Is it moral courage or stubbornness? Often times, what annoys people about a MBTI type goes hand in hand with their strengths.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    ^ Something I've noticed is that you can choose to see qualities in a negative or positive light. Is it moral courage or stubbornness? Often times, what annoys people about a MBTI type goes hand in hand with their strengths.
    I agree to a point, but I still think far, far more people will feel better about being called "mule-headed" than "tractable". Especially the tractable ones. The mule-headed ones will just think the guy is really good at his job to have them so pegged. You can't lose.

    Edit: not saying you aren't mule-headed, William K.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    ^ Something I've noticed is that you can choose to see qualities in a negative or positive light. Is it moral courage or stubbornness? Often times, what annoys people about a MBTI type goes hand in hand with their strengths.
    Pretty much, that's the problem. Every coin has two sides.

    Gotta accept the bad with the good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    I guess that is why I take offense at the whiny label. I'm not allowed to be whiny even if I wanted to be. And yet, I hear tons of whining all around me. I'm the person to call up when you want to whine and get some support, because I will actually listen to people and not trivialize their feelings. I rarely get that kind of support returned to me though, and if I ask for it or fall for whatever trick they're throwing at me to "open up", then apparently I am self-absorbed.
    Me too.

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    I guess that is why I take offense at the whiny label. I'm not allowed to be whiny even if I wanted to be. And yet, I hear tons of whining all around me. I'm the person to call up when you want to whine and get some support, because I will actually listen to people and not trivialize their feelings. I rarely get that kind of support returned to me though, and if I ask for it or fall for whatever trick they're throwing at me to "open up", then apparently I am self-absorbed.
    Funny, I get this a lot too! Hmmm.
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