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Thread: How does an INFJ show interest in someone?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    Contact them way too often. INFJ's have a tendency to be sort of like a stalker to someone they like.

    I've been thinking about this thread for a few days now, trying to imagine how I would show interest (seeing how I've never been seriously interested in someone so I can only speculate). If I were crushing hard on someone, I can totally see myself obsessing over them and contacting them far too much - provided that I know they're interested in me first Verbalizing my interest probably wouldn't happen at any stage of the relationship, unless forced
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    You asked if INFJ's are indecisive about who they like. I would say absolutely not! INFJ's are the opposite - we are very aware of who we like or don't like. And if we like someone, then it is a really strong emotion. But we are fickle in the sense that we get insecure about relationships and will ignore someone if we feel like we might get rejected by them.

    I think INFJ seem to be difficult to live and judge others in the gray area. It's either we perfectly know we really dig you, or the opposite. Along with the Fe, even if we didn't say outwardly that we really appreciate your existence and that we genuinely like you (due to introversion), the Fe will at least somehow drops hints or show in other subtle way to make sure that you'll get noticed that we do consider you as someone special.

    The biggest problem is as Lily flower mentioned that we do have a strong fear of rejection. This is something I'm still trying to work on myself.

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    I just spent half an hour deeply involved in this growing romance, and there was no ending! And I can't access the blog. Autumn or anyone, how did it all go? I hope whatever happened, it was for the best.

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    I should preface this by saying I'm not sure how much this is type related necessarily but I'll answer them just the same so I can have an E4 moment and make it about me...and since this thread was already necro'd.

    1. How would you try to catch the eye of another person?
    If I was truly interested in someone in physical reality I'd probably try to always look my best if I knew I was going to be around them, or what I perceived to be my best. I'd also probably try to find a way to engage with them and talk to them about their interests to see how much we would seemingly have in common and how we click in day to day conversation.
    2. Would you ever ask somebody out before they had demonstrated distinct interest in you?
    Maybe...but it'd be a really extreme occasion. I more or less like to be the one pursued generally even if they had demonstrated interest. If there was someone I truly felt I could develop feelings for but didn't know them very well I might say fuck it and go for it...The worst you can get is a no.
    3. Once you have made contact, do you try to define the dating relationship? Or do you go with the flow?
    Other than ensuring it's mutually exclusive I really just want to go with the flow. I'd prefer if the other person had some ideal of how things should go because I'm not always certain of what I want other than to be involved with the person romantically.
    4. On a first date, how do you usually act?
    Awkward and self-conscious but trying not to show it mixed with asking the person all sorts of odd things about themselves to get an idea of what they're about.
    5. How would you like to be approached/asked out by an interested person?
    Just flat out ask me. I had someone once "pursue" me by calling me every day for friendly conversation and it was the most absurd thing.
    6. How long does it take for you to decide to date exclusively?
    More or less I don't generally date people who are interested in something casual to start with. I'm all for taking things slowly but I want that person to be committed to me while we're figuring things out. I don't want to be dating them casually while they're going on dates with others. That is just odd to me. By the third date we should be exclusive until it's figured out whether or not we want a relationship otherwise they can hit the road.
    7. What do you do that you consider a "dead give-away" that you like somebody?
    Tell the person how I feel? I'm not really into playing weird flirting games I'd probably ask the person to hang out a couple times casually tell them how I feel and if they were interested in going on a date then great.
    8. How often do you take the initiative/make the first move/ask someone out?
    Almost never it's probably something I should work on. I rarely experience strong attraction from the beginning so it's hard for me to project whether or not it's even worth it to go on a date with someone (that may sound strange). Recently I've been doing more online dating because of lack of time with school and that's a whole other ball game. I met my current love interest online and they pursued me.
    9. What would be your ideal date (activity)?
    Hiking through the woods or doing something out in nature. Anywhere that's quiet that we can share some sort of teamwork while maintaining conversation.
    10. How should one go about pursuing you?
    Just ask me out. If I think there's potential for something more I'll say yes if I don't I'll say no.
    11. Are INFJs very indecisive/fickle when it comes to deciding on who they like? Or do they pretty much "know" and stick with that (barring any major complications/events/etc that would change their mind)?
    I more or less know if I want to get to know someone further but I usually don't know how I feel about someone the more I get to know them. Until I'm around someone day in and day out for a while it's kind of a big grey area.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AutumnReverie View Post
    So here's the update! It is, however, epically I'll just link to my blog (you'll need to scroll down to "Romantic Developments")

    Advice and insight is needed (as usual ) and appreciated!
    What was the outcome here? I'm curious

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    Unfortunately the ending was not as exciting as all the build up. I decided to move out of state...but I did spend my last night there with him and his friends. We all had a very fun night and I gave him a mixed CD of songs that reminded me of him and some songs that I knew he would enjoy. Also, I gave him a card (as I did with all my few closest friend) saying that he was "The Best [insert all the unique fun facts I know and like about him] Friend that I have. And I will miss you."

    The end.
    After all,
    you're my wonderwall...

    {listen: }

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