Yeah, don't try too hard to be "cute" or "girly" etc. You know, the squeaky girly voices. I'm an INFP, but I suspect ENFPs hold the same distaste for that kind of contrived try-hardry. He'll probably like you on account of your ability to understand his Ne jokes and references, and your Fe caring for his soft Fi side.
That sounded ridiculous lol. Forget type; if you guys like each other, then go out.
That is a great question, because it can be a very tricky thing. I'm not even sure I know the answer to that question, myself.
I supposed just pay attention to her, talk to her, be flirty but not too raunchy because INFJ will not immediately get it, or will get turned off by the raunch if too much. Like, tease but in a good way. Be understanding and patient though if she retreats, and try to read body language more than anything. if someone hits on me, and if i like them back, I may get extremely, extremely nervous and shy.
Or if you think you can't do the teasing thing well, just invite her to go out (but make sure you pay a lot of attention to her when you're out like say if you go with a group of friends she doesn't know, or if you go to some kind of gathering, because INFJs can freak out in such settings).
weeeeeeeeellll.... if there's any ENFP guys out there that snagged an INFJ girl, want to discuss some strategy?
My boyfriend's approach: appear in my dreams and ask me out in really awkward ways without my knowing he exists in reality. It actually worked, too, even though I rejected him rather cruelly, if hilariously, in the second dream (as you can see here in a doodle I made well before I saw him). I was a self proclaimed celibate asexual before I was with him. It took a couple years but it finally happened, since I eventually fell for him in dreams to such an extent that I documented every somnolent encounter. You can imagine I practically soiled my drawers when I saw him for the first time, thinking he'd been some personal concoction. Actually, I have to admit it was disappointing--dream relationships don't come with all the same problems that happen in waking reality.
I'm mostly joking, of course. Not only would I discourage starting a relationship through telepathic dreams, I think it's probably pretty obvious it wouldn't happen in most cases. But there is something to be garnered from my experience, I think. My boyfriend had a genuine interest in me for a long time despite being largely homosexual and, though I didn't know who he was at all, some part of my brain was apparently aware of this. If your interest is intense and legitimate, rather than just infatuation with her more external attributes, there's probably a chance some part of her is going to feel it and she's going to react, for better or worse. Assuming she's fairly aware of her subconscious, you may very well get through. On the surface, I think the suggestions and advice that have already been given are great.
I've found that every time I've had any sort of very intense telepathic experiences with someone they're always NFPs. And yes, this sort of communication does go beyond Ni. Whether all of this is just a personal quirk of mine rather than something you'll find amongst many INFJs who experience strongly cryptaesthetic events, I don't honestly know. "Transcendental relationship" is definitely an apt term, though. If nothing else, I always find NFPs adorable. Seriously, stop being so damn cute, it's annoying.
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HAH... that's hysterical. So so so true. Practical stuff, ... yes, my infj and I tend to miscommunicate, but we love each other enough to piece through it, and come out smelling more rosey than before!!! Nothing quite like it!!
HAHAHA! Yes, the misunderstandings were outrageous, never happens in our relationships with other people the way it happened between us. Silly things... where we're going to meet each other, what time something is going to happen...
Also, we used to get into an "awkwardness loop" - he's quiet, then I get nervous and say stupid things or talk too much, then he's quieter as we both assess how silly I'm being, then things get more awkward...
But it feels like it happens less and less as we fall in sync emotionally.
Relate very much to this. I've always said (and my friends have said of me) that I need someone who's gonna crack me open, and *knows how to* - usually Ni/Ne topics/approaches. Usually this requires an Ne-dom (for it to move ahead faster and most spontaneously and naturally), otherwise it might take a long time or simply never go anywhere, in the case of those who aren't terribly Ne/Ni-based.
They say ENFPs "crack people open" as a kind of game, and that's kind of true for me. We'll share from our life eeeeasy, just to get the other person to do the same.
Sometimes I take a step back and think, girl do you realize how HUGE it is for this INFJ to share his intimate-est life stories and feelings with you?? And then I'm grateful that he counts me worthy (because we all know how picky you are INFJs). And I try to be as responsible with his heart as possible.