I don't want to bring it into something like that. I actually intended the thread to be lighter in context.
Simple scenario. Charming ENFJ girl has to choose sides between, let's say, two guys that go gaga over her.
It's good if the girl would somehow act as an intermediary, but sometimes, an immature ENFJ would just act friendly to both sides, with little concern (or doing hardly much) about the tension that the two sides are having, creating the impression of an egotistical ENFJ side.
"Hey, you guys can go crazy over me, but don't involve me in whatever tussles you're having."
That's the kind of message the girl is sending.
Which is sad, because ENFJs can be very very good people (very far from the stereotypical ESFJ party girl), but allegiance indecisiveness can make them lose a bit of a respect that they should be getting.
Worse, this a problem that ENFJs barely tell anyone (they hardly tell anything about themselves). They publicly show that SF-like smile, only to be weeping in moments of solitude (e.g., bedtime, etc).