[INFP] Male INFPs and Women

[Ginkgo]

Do any other male INFPs find that their E or S friends are much more outspoken about women?

For instance, if a group of construction workers start whistling and howling at an attractive woman like a pack of animals, I tend to think they are shallow. Even in real life, I feel that many of my friends just go crazy for good looking women, but they don't think beyond that.

I believe that beauty is skin deep. I'm not trying to be preachy, I just can't understand why other people have to be so outspoken about physical beauty.

Can anyone relate to this?

 

[The Outsider]

Yes, definitely.

 

[OrangeAppled]

Honestly, from my impression online, INFP men are not that different from other men as they might like people to think, or as they come across at first. While they may not be as inclined to casual sex as some men, I don't find them all as "enlightened" as they might initially project.

 

[Lauren Ashley]

Honestly, from my impression online, INFP men are not that different from other men as they might like people to think, or as they come across at first. While they may not be as inclined to casual sex as some men, I don't find them all as "enlightened" as they might initially project.

I agree with this.

Maybe it's just the INFP men online. But I don't see that they are very different from other men in regards to physical attraction. They're certainly less outspoken about it irl, as they tend to be about most everything, but from what I've gleaned from online forums where they are more open, they aren't much different besides that. Of course there are specific INFP men that are different with respect to this, and a lot of what I've seen could possibly be chalked up to maturity and experience.

 

[Ginkgo]

Indeed, I am physically attracted, but, I suppose I'm not inclined to be as verbal about it.

 

[poppy]

Do any other male INFPs find that their E or S friends are much more outspoken about women?

Es are outspoken about everything .

I believe that beauty is skin deep. I'm not trying to be preachy, I just can't understand why other people have to be so outspoken about physical beauty.

Can anyone relate to this?

Well, I hope you get some more male feedback. However from my experience it would seem that this isn't a type thing.

On the flipside, I'm an NT female, and I have been known to more or less jokingly cat-call men. I don't see anything wrong with noting the physical attractiveness of members of the opposite (or same for that matter) sex, as it ultimately is not the determining factor in how I interact with them.

 

[Biaxident]

Do any other male INFPs find that their E or S friends are much more outspoken about women?

For instance, if a group of construction workers start whistling and howling at an attractive woman like a pack of animals, I tend to think they are shallow. Even in real life, I feel that many of my friends just go crazy for good looking women, but they don't think beyond that.

I believe that beauty is skin deep. I'm not trying to be preachy, I just can't understand why other people have to be so outspoken about physical beauty.

Can anyone relate to this?

Heh...Despite(or in spite of) all the flirty behavior, it's a woman's mind that attracts me, and keeps my interest. Actual physical looks are...oh, fifth or sixth, on the list of things I look for.

 

[poppy]

Heh...Despite(or in spite of) all the flirty behavior, it's a woman's mind that attracts me, and keeps my interest. Actual physical looks are...oh, fifth or sixth, on the list of things I look for.

Oh come on. What if she had like...a tiny arm or a pug face or something?

I'm not terrible picky within a certain range of "average" appearances, but then I suppose that's how most of us plebs operate.

 

[sleuthiness]

Reading these threads is sort of like having predictable sex with a robot (like from that A.I. movie).

 

[poppy]

Reading these threads is sort of like having predictable sex with a robot (like from that A.I. movie).

You rang?

 

[Biaxident]

Oh come on. What if she had like...a tiny arm or a pug face or something?

I'm not terrible picky within a certain range of "average" appearances, but then I suppose that's how most of us plebs operate.

Um...well...Let's go off onto the bizarre end of the spectrum shall we?

I'm not saying there aren't some things I won't draw the line at. But I was speaking as a general rule. Hey, never rule out anything.



P.S. It's the female of the species with the need for good looking mates...

 

[poppy]

Um...well...Let's go off onto the bizarre end of the spectrum shall we?

Let's!

I'm not saying there aren't some things I won't draw the line at. But I was speaking as a general rule. Hey, never rule out anything.

That's ok, that was purty much my point

P.S. It's the female of the species with the need for good looking mates...

 

[Biaxident]

Let's!


That's ok, that was purty much my point

I figured...

I have learned to let the womenfolk talk...

It keeps 'em happy...

 

[poppy]

I figured...

I have learned to let the womenfolk talk...

It keeps 'em happy...

Oh whatever :rolli:

 

[Biaxident]

Oh whatever :rolli:

Hehehe...

Keep rolling them like that...and they'll stick that way....

 

[Requeim]

For instance, if a group of construction workers start whistling and howling at an attractive woman like a pack of animals, I tend to think they are shallow.

me too, but who knows, i would probably do the same if i was a bit more courageous and extraverted

still, if something like that happens those people are just marked for life in my brain as "bad people"

 

[Lambchop]

If you don't mind my .02 here, I think INFP definitely want someone they are attracted to, but that isn't first on their list. They are way more compromising looks-wise than many of the other male personality types. For example, they would date someone who was heavier if she had a pretty face and a good personality. If they went out with someone who was very attractive, but had no personality -- they would have no qualms about not seeing them again. Whereas, another guy might keep seeing them again because they are very attractive.

Orange Applied - I have read MANY of your posts and I enjoy them. However, you seem to be VERY bitter toward INFP men. I wonder what made you that way. Yes, they have their issues like everyone else does...and they may be seen as nice because they keep their bad feelings more hidden, but it's obviously that you feel VERY strongly about it. Just curious why?

 

[Laurie]

me too, but who knows, i would probably do the same if i was a bit more courageous and extraverted

still, if something like that happens those people are just marked for life in my brain as "bad people"

I think this encapsulates a lot of NF behavior.

 

[OrangeAppled]

Orange Applied - I have read MANY of your posts and I enjoy them. However, you seem to be VERY bitter toward INFP men. I wonder what made you that way. Yes, they have their issues like everyone else does...and they may be seen as nice because they keep their bad feelings more hidden, but it's obviously that you feel VERY strongly about it. Just curious why?

I'm not bitter at all . I don't have much real life experience with INFP men. Almost all of the INFPs I've known are women. I was stating my opinion from my online observations, which is that I notice that INFP men are not that different from other men on the whole in their views of women, whether good or bad.

If you're referring to the comments I made in the male INFPs = nice guys thread, they're not about INFP men specifically. Any type can fall into that mindset. I'd argue that it's insulting to INFP men to lump them all as those faux "nice guys".

 

[Charmed Justice]

I dated an INFP for years. I pursued him because he wouldn't approach me. He never seemed to be all too moved by the looks of a woman. I never got the feeling that he'd cheat on me because a better looking girl came around. He valued the depth of the relationship over looks, for sure. Girls would throw themselves at him, and he would just look at them like they were crazy. He didn't brag about it, and didn't even seem to think to highly of his popularity. I've never seen anything like it actually.