I was inspired by Cafe's post on the maternal thread, so thanks to Cafe first of all.
I've often wondered what it will be like being a parent as an INFJ. I worry sometimes that I might not do well because of my desire for time 'alone inside my head'. I worry that my tendency for one-on-one friendships as opposed to a big social network of friends might be a negative influence or something.
I worry about (obviously) being a worrier and fear raising a scared kid (I know I could give good 'verbal' sort of instructions but I know children learn most by example and the behavior they see in their caregivers, so I worry about what things my child might pick up about me that I don't realize I do, that sort of thing). I certainly have all sorts of ideas about parenting in my head but I know how different the real world experience can be from the idea in my head.
My ex, whom I think was an ISTJ, were planning on children. Now, I am so glad we did not have any together because it was really a very toxic relationship. I'm not condemning everyone of that type by the behavior he exhibited, but I'm thinking now I might be better off with an EP type, or basically just someone who is a good balance from my demeanor so our kids would have 'the best of both worlds' as it were.
I was wondering about any of you INFJ ladies and gentlemen with children, and what parenthood has been like for you? What have been the challenges and joys, the rewards and your different approaches. What are some things you've learned that might be good tips for a prospective INFJ parent? What type is your partner and how has that worked in terms of raising the little ones?
Also, if you had an INFJ parent yourself, what was that like for you? Anything particular you've observed about the INFJ parenting style first hand?
I'd love to read any feedback