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    -- How do you pick emotions of other people ?

    I don't actually pick them, they just come to you. Hard to verbalise! You don't look at something to see a particular colour, you see the colour it is!! Body language and voice help, but they more support what you feel about them rather than be the initial indicator to what you feel.


    -- Do you understand what the person is feeling right away?

    I get a very good hunch straight away. The more time I spend with them, the more the complexity of the feeling is revealed...


    -- I am wondering if you try to determine this piece of information by "default" or it taks a conscious action to do this ?

    It is not a conscious action, the more conscious of it I am, the more I will over think/analyse and go off on tangents... but the more relaxed I am the more I feel...


    -- Also if someone asks you how many emotions do you recognize what would you say as an answer ?

    How many colours are there??

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    How do you pick emotions of other people ?


    In theory this is something in what NFs are suppose to be great at. So I am wondering how this works. Do you understand what the person is feeling right away? (like you should in online tests)
    Or it is more likely that you will slowly have to figure it out through a body language/voice or somethinng like that ?
    i suppose it's a combination of what you mentioned... you make less misjudgements with people you know well. it's a delicate matter, so it's not wise to jump into conclusions, but only use your intuition to possibly open the lines of communication (the way you do it is also important)... the more you have had experiences with different kinds of people and the more understanding you have about yourself and people in general helps a great deal... (goes without saying that mistakes are made)

    I am wondering if you try to determine this piece of information by "default" or it taks a conscious action to do this ? (or it depends)
    it always takes a concious action for me. i am concious about "feeling" people.

    Also if someone asks you how many emotions do you recognize what would you say as an answer ?
    many, but i suppose it's first just a negative, or a positive vibe...
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    As an extension of the OP, do you (NFs) generally find it easier to read the emotions of some types relative to others, other circumstances being equal?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurel View Post
    1. Body language
    2. Tone of voice
    3. Words being used
    4. Previous experience with the person and their reactions
    5. Previous experience with someone similar and the other person's reactions compared.

    As an ENFP I am better at figuring out relationships I'm not involved in. When they get close to me I have more trouble seeing the truth in the situation. I think that might be the Ne, Fi difference kicking in. (not sure, just a theory, don't know much about functions)

    The people who are analyzing you might be having a similar issue depending on what NF they are. I'm not sure where the water gets muddied for other NFs.

    eta: We just absorb it. It gets better over years of correctly or incorrectly absorbing data and changing the people model. It reminds me of algebra. Would you think twice to answer x + 3 = 7 as x = 4? Of course not. Even if it takes some thought it's just so built in it just happens.

    How many emotions do I recognize? It's not about a number, it's about what someone is like. Cause and effect. It's bigger than just "that person is scared" - I need more data. Also, the interesting part isn't that they are scared or uncomfortable. It's why they are scared. Knowing someone is scared is just data, the interpretation is the fun stuff.
    This pretty much sums it up for me. I mostly notice a vibe but I'm good at watching people's faces and body language.
    I took psychology in high school and in college(only a term) so I think I use a lot of the knowledge from those classes as well to read people easier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    As an extension of the OP, do you (NFs) generally find it easier to read the emotions of some types relative to others, other circumstances being equal?
    i suppose it directly correlates to what types of people i have had the most past experience with, or with whom i can identify better... feelings are universal, though, and people are people...
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    As an INFJ, I'd say that I can feel emotions somewhat, and usually I'm pretty good at it. But I'm also not very confident in directly confronting it. Sometimes, I'm not even confident enough to believe it. I don't like assuming things that nobody has confirmed.

    And this is something that just happens. I don't really have to try, but it needs to be retrieved. Does that make sense? I can't just know, I need to think about it a little bit.

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    First I pick up on the vibe as they approach. Then I feel the atmosphere immediately around them, which comes pretty easily for me (and I imagine most other INFPs). Then I watch the eyes -- there's much truth in there. Also tone of voice, plus the pace and intonation of speech, and even rate and depth of breathing.

    Body language is good too, but for me it works much better if I know the person well. Sometimes with strangers it's hard to tell if it's simply posture and mannerisms, or if they're actually saying something with their body.

    But the eyes rarely lie.

    Don't know how I do it -- it has always been easy -- like they're broadcasting it for me.

    If it's not like this for you, and you want to get better at it, maybe try to focus on these things with some people that you know well, when you know how they're feeling, and then apply it to others.

    In my experience these physiological expressions are fairly universal.

    EDIT: However, and to not misrepresent my powers of perception, if I'm trying to perceive the emotions of somebody else as it pertains to me, especially if the emotions are in any way negative, I become flustered, constantly thinking to myself... 'what did I do wrong?' or 'How can I fix it?' or 'What's wrong with me?' AND, 'I really didn't mean to hurt ANYONE, especially this person in front of me.'

    Alas, the blessing/curse of the INFP(?)

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    body language, context of the situation, Ni is good here, it looks for single truths out of chaos, When I am around someone I am usually completely focused on them and not the environment, so I notice what theyre doing, saying, how they look, what kind of day theyre having, if they say something I look for extra meanings stuff like that, usually I can hit pretty close to home, but its not 100%
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    The way a person acts says a lot. I get hints from their behavior and expression. Also as I work in nursing, I look for signs of hunger, hydration, stress etc. As I listen to what a person says, I pay attention to the words and tone. After these have passed through my information intake, I then get a few ideas and go test out what kind of feeling in the air wraps around each possibility. I get a good idea of which one is correct and quite often I'm right. So, there is a feeling in the air, but for me it's second to noticing there is a more visual indication there's somthing up. For me it's just an unconcious process and is second nature.
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    Something that I've picked up on recently is as simple as noting how much eye contact someone has...I've noticed that a friend who feels dejected and seems to have lost touch with the world hasn't been keeping eye contact. I have a problem then knowing how far to probe. With some of my friends I know I can probe and get involved (ENFPs make this easy...) but with other people, you sense there's distrust and a wall. Recently, finding this in other people makes me turn around and shut off too. Unless I see a door open a little inviting discussion, I tend not to try to impose myself. Do other people have this same issue?

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