Your friend said:
This is exactly the kind of partly-serious, mostly-joke statements I usually make when I'm probing for how a friend feels about things."It's sooo bad that you hate me, Fuzz. People are constantly going around now saying, 'We'd better pray for the prayer team, Bee and Fuzz are at it again," (we co-lead the prayer team for our church)."
She probably said it with a warm smile and/or tone of voice, right?
It's a way of opening up the possibility of a deep conversation without overwhelming the other person.
Like dipping your toe in the pool to see how the temperature is, that's all.
She was probably trying to gauge how you felt, and how willing you were, at the moment, to talk about it.
And out of respect for you, she would moderate it according to your perceived level of comfort.
Of course, this is only a guess. I really don't know for sure.
It sounds incredibly familiar to me, though.