Alright, I'm taking a risk here since one of my friends has discovered some of these forums and enjoys pokin' around. I'm rollin' with this anyway.
I could use some advice and would also like to know if this is typical of the type. I've got 2 ENFJ friends that I hang out with. I can handle either of them alone and have a great time. Problem is, when you get the 2 of them together I forget how much they feed off of each other. If I know I'm around both of them and I haven't brought my "A game", I'm pretty much screwed. I don't think its intentional, again they just kinda feed off each others energy, but its so exhausting. I really enjoy my time with them, not many people get me like that. Its just that I know with the both of 'em together, at some point its going to go from playfully pelting snowballs at each other to me tryin' to outrun an avalanche.
One of them seems to catch when I'm getting annoyed most of the time and tries to pull it back (which I greatly appreciate) but then gets caught back up in it if the other keeps things rolling.
I'm not sure exactly how to handle the situation. I'm much closer to one than the other, but I'm worried about getting a straight answer out of them. I know how much they worry about others and don't like hurting people's feelings. So, I can see it going like I've hurt their feelings because they didn't realize I was upset(which isn't my intention) and they're going to try not to hurt my feelings working this out. Even though I've said on numerous occasions "I'll take a hard truth over a cozy lie any day."
Is this just something typical of type? Should I just grow some thicker skin and ignore it? How should I bring it up if not?
Right now I'm looking at ways to limit interaction with them without hurting their feelings. Its hard to engage them one on one anymore (where I enjoy their company and I think they really shine) since they're kinda attached at the hip these days. I really would like to be able to hang with them as a group though, I know they'd prefer it.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.