After sleeping on it for a bit, I've made a decision. I'm gonna let things ride for right now and have a talk with them only if things get way too out of hand. I've been having a small identity crisis lately. Trying to break free from the persona I created for myself to get through my time in the military. There's some other things going on too and its all made me a bit more sensitive than usual. Again, I know they are just playing. If I can keep that in mind its easier to deal with, but my armor has taken some hard hits from other things in life.
Another thing is I know one of them is under a lot of stress right now. They've told it seems like its coming at 'em everywhere they turn. I don't want to add fire from my direction as well.
So, for the greater good (helping lower my friend's blood pressure), I'm going to suck it up and try to bow out gracefully during those times that gets to be too much. If it gets to the point that I just CAN'T handle it anymore, I'm going to do my best to maintain calm and sit them down for an honest talk. I know one of them, at least, appreciates that I usually handle things that way.
Thanks again to everyone who gave their honest input on here. I understand I've irked a couple of people off with this thread. It wasn't my intention. I think I explained things as clearly as I knew how in my posts, but upon reflection, I can see how the title of this thread could've been taken in a negative light and set the wrong tone from the start. I apologize and will try to keep this in mind in the future. I would ask that all of you please keep in mind that I am an avid lurker. If I start a thread or weigh in on one, its because I need some real advice or I am honestly trying to help. I don't feel the need to be malicious on the net.
This is a great forum and a little common courtesy on everyone's part will go a long way in keeping it so.
Thank you all again.