And I'm guessing that he went into this ignoring what I was saying from the start, believing that he could be the one to change that negative view, so in hindsight both parties weren't on the same page.
Anyway I'm glad I made the thread, glad I hashed it out and glad I got told off by a few people.
I phoned him in the end, spoke to him for about an hour and tried very hard to get him to understand my reasons for breaking up with him.
Unfortunately he was not really listening to what I was saying, and settled on the only concrete thing he could think of, that of him hitting on a girl whilst I was at the bar buying a drink. I honestly wasn't bothered by the actual hitting on this girl, as much as I was by it being done whilst I was there, I wasn't impressed with that but it wasn't my reasons for breaking it off. (I don't expect loyalty from anyone, so I accept from the start the inevitable, that way when it happens I don't care)
My reasons were that I really wasn't in a healthy place right now, and that I really shouldn't have even attempted to start dating anyone in the first place.
So the conversation was based on him apologising for something that didn't bother me, and ignoring my real reasons. Feeling like he had something concrete he could apologise for and fix in some way, and leaving me frustrated that he wasn't listening to what I was saying.
Unfortunately he doesn't wish to give up that easily, didn't really pay attention to what I was saying, and continued to send me "lovey dovey" texts after the conversation was over. All of which I ignored, how many times am I meant to break up with him? how often do I owe him yet more explanations?